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I've never had anxiety before in my life, I'm not the type to stress myself out over things and I've really never been really scared or worried about anything. I usually take a day at a time and just see what happens. I don't dwell too much on things and I deal with a problem only if it causes me a lot of stress.

A few months back though, everything changed. I started to worry about the smallest things, I thought way too much about the future, the past, myself and basically everything. I was scared and stressed out to the point that my body hurt everyday and I felt locked up in my own head 'cause I just couldn't stop thinking. It was like an on-going conversation in my head that just wouldn't end. I didn't trust my feelings anymore and I realized that I couldn't make any decisions at all unless I started thinking logically and rationally about an issue. I became so introverted and I couldn't have normal conversations with people 'cause my mind would wander off somewhere else. I couldn't pay attention in school and I developed some kind of social anxiety, people made me feel awkward and I started to think that eye contact was the worst thing ever. I usually stayed in my room and refused to go see anyone. Worst part is, I couldn't find a way out 'cause I thought if I just did what was expected of me then it would all go away.

I never thought this would happen to me 'cause it the total opposite from the way I usually see and deal with the world and I was so confused for such a long time I just wanted to kill myself. It's better now though and I'm starting to get back to myself again and it feels so good. It's been an eyeopener for me 'cause I realized that I am who I am for a reason and I don't need to change for anyone.

I was just wondering, has anyone here been through anything like this?
 

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I've never had anxiety before in my life, I'm not the type to stress myself out over things and I've really never been really scared or worried about anything. I usually take a day at a time and just see what happens. I don't dwell too much on things and I deal with a problem only if it causes me a lot of stress.

A few months back though, everything changed. I started to worry about the smallest things, I thought way too much about the future, the past, myself and basically everything. I was scared and stressed out to the point that my body hurt everyday and I felt locked up in my own head 'cause I just couldn't stop thinking. It was like an on-going conversation in my head that just wouldn't end. I didn't trust my feelings anymore and I realized that I couldn't make any decisions at all unless I started thinking logically and rationally about an issue. I became so introverted and I couldn't have normal conversations with people 'cause my mind would wander off somewhere else. I couldn't pay attention in school and I developed some kind of social anxiety, people made me feel awkward and I started to think that eye contact was the worst thing ever. I usually stayed in my room and refused to go see anyone. Worst part is, I couldn't find a way out 'cause I thought if I just did what was expected of me then it would all go away.

I never thought this would happen to me 'cause it the total opposite from the way I usually see and deal with the world and I was so confused for such a long time I just wanted to kill myself. It's better now though and I'm starting to get back to myself again and it feels so good. It's been an eyeopener for me 'cause I realized that I am who I am for a reason and I don't need to change for anyone.

I was just wondering, has anyone here been through anything like this?
Quite similar in fact from beginning to end. I was just wondering as I read the first paragraph if suppression of my dominant function could cause the same kind of future-based anxiety. If I don't go day by day the anxiety can come back so I try to not do so as much as possible. I had a few panic attacks too as well as chronic anxiety.

I was also wondering about the personalities that are forced on us from other people. When trying to figure out if I really was an extravert or an intravert, I found a thread about how society prefers extraverts so they are made to feel inferior. Well in my own life, it was the other way around and I realized I was made to suppress a whole hell of a lot of my personality by various people all along and I felt as if I was defective if I got in trouble and criticised repeatedly for just being myself. I even wonder if I suppressed my sensing now because of it's score below Fi in my tests and yet I still favour Se.
 
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Take yourself out of the thought process. I know it is hard to do, sometimes I can make myself sick with anxiety. I have learnt a good way in to which to calm myself down. Listening to my Mp3, and dancing usually does the trick. Obviously you cannot do this at any given time, but if I have had a bad day this usually helps me feel better.

I'm not sure why to be honest, maybe it is keeping my body active that helps me. I would suggest to do it. It doesn't help my problems, of course but it helps me to calm down.
 

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Old thread, but I agree with the OP. The Ni grip is powerful and makes us introverted/anxious, at least for a while. For me, I must have been in the grip for years. I always test as an IN** now.

Only way out for me was going back to Se stuff. Although, sometimes I think I do need to journal more and express my feelings that way which helps re-align me back to who I really am. I say Se and Fi save me from those Ni-fueled states...which on one hand is still incredibly helpful (like in developing our intuition and balancing us out as a person), but sometimes you just need to be who you really are, if you have not been feeling like yourself and spiraling out of control.

I guess for an ESTP, Se and Ti would do the trick.
 
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