how do you communicate? what happens when you try to pitch an idea for example, how do you get over the fixation on little details?
Well, in the earlier years, we just fascinated each other. I didn't realize how different we were. I only knew he was an introvert and I was an extrovert. I figured I'd show him the world and help him out of his shell...
He. Never. Came. Out. - lol
Over the years, I've gotten fed up with the criticism. I cannot stand to be criticized for things I'm just NOT good at. I;m forgetful, but my hear is always in the right place.
he's a gosh darn task master, and I HATE routine! lol
We've learned to communicate though. Because I'm sooooo good at communication, he is able to actually understand himself more through me... and I'm able to finally be understood, at least in a way that doesn't have him trying to conform me anymore. But I too tried to make him more like me! Socially, we're just SOOOO different. We see the whole word from totally different points of view. obviously.
I actually don't get over the fixation on details. I just ignore them. He lets my forgetfulness slide and accepts my need for freedom in my schedule, and I accept his need for security in a set schedule. We try not to impose on each other's natural characteristics. MBTI actually gave us our marriage back. Once we had 'proof' that the other person wasn't 'wrong' just gifted in different areas, we were able to appreciate and accept those differences.
But some days, it just doesn't work!
Oh, almost forgot the 'pitching and idea' part. Actually, he usually entertains my ideas. I think he just thinks my passion is cute though... I don't think he thinks I'm capable sometimes... and honestly, I'm not always. I just have lots of ideas and I need HELP seeing them through. We don't really connect over my ideas, or any ideas for that matter. Sometimes its a little depressing to realize that we kind of just love each other and coexist =/
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