Sorry Unbeingdead. Please grab nearest paperbag if you go into hyperventilation. But this may not have anything to do with age. I am trying to find out.ack! perhaps this is just my young age speaking, but happily married seems like an oxymoron! being stuck with someone forever and forever and ever seems so dismal and depressing.
This totally made my day. Too funny. Your ENFP brother incredibly smart :happy:My brother is a jolly, enthusiastic ENFP who is happily married to a mousy little buck-toothed IxFJ wife. She seems slightly more S than N, to me, but isn't so overwhelmingly S that she dislikes discussing abstract topics with my brother's N friends. She's amazingly creative with home crafts like sewing, crocheting, arranging and decorating. I like to think of it as "nesting" when she places special care into making the home comfortable and pleasant. My brother appreciates it because of his refined aesthetic tastes and because he understands that it symbolizes her nurturing feelings toward him. The closest thing to a conflict they have ever had was when she used to ask him to help make decisions about furniture placement and he would say "I don't care." What he meant was that he felt she was more competent at deciding such things, and had no preference. What she heard was that he didn't care... about contributing to their comfort by participating in domestic decisions, or about her efforts to do so. To her, the arrangement of furniture was a meaning-laden ritual that signified an effort to build a happy home together. To him, it was just a simple physical matter of pushing large objects around. He learned that his lack of an opinion was the source of hurt feelings, and caught on quickly. He learned to show an interest by pretending to have a preference in trivial matters in order to avoid seeming detached and uninvolved. He now says "I think it would look nice over here," and then she gives reasons why she agrees or disagrees, discussing it until she eventually ends up putting it wherever she would have decided anyhow, with the belief that the two of them have come to the agreement together. They are an adorable couple.
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I can't believe we have a sub-type for people like us. Lol.Hey Pinkrasputin...I'm an ENFP, 'old':laughing:.
Sounds like you did things the right way.I think it is possible to be married or in a committed relationship and be and ENFP.....I have to say I didn't settle down at all until my 30's and by then was tired of playing the field and was happy to take things a bit more easy.
THIS IS SO TRUE!!!!!!I think we need a partner who will let us do our own thing and is not too clingy, one who will also trust you, as when someone trusts you it is much easier to be trustworthy.
Hmm... That sounds like me and the ENTP. What's up with that? I feel like there's no parent around.I can also say that probably the worst partnership I ever had was with another ENFP...we were SUCH a bad influence on each other, very very bad
They may be an adorable couple but hell will host the winter Olympics before THIS guy gets anywhere close to a "mousy" I_FJ type. I had one date with a ISFJ after turning away a few and gave one a shot to see if I was correct about it being a mismatch...and it was!My brother is a jolly, enthusiastic ENFP who is happily married to a mousy little buck-toothed IxFJ wife. She's amazingly creative with home crafts like sewing, crocheting, arranging and decorating.