As INFJ and INTJ are both reserved introverts. I wonder how the relationships developed. Did it take a lot of patience in the beginning? How long after you have known INTJ were you able to have a romantic Relationship?
After 'knowing' me (we went out with the same group of people, all colleagues) for about roughly 10 months he asked me out for a drink and started talking about some of the things we had in common (movies, music, philosophy, etc.).
I mainly listened and didn’t really get personal or tried to stay on the surface as much as I could. As he walked me home he stopped in the middle of the street and just went; “I like you… like a lot”.
I was totally not expecting that given the fact that he didn’t really seem to give it away at any point in our interaction but he truly meant it when he said it.
From there and on it took 6 months before he actually kissed me (and yes; he asked first if he could )