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Just curious, I've always wondered if this would be a viable solution. Although I've only met 2 INTP females and both were gender fluid and mainly attracted to other women.
 

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Although I've only met 2 INTP females and both were gender fluid and mainly attracted to other women.
Interesting. Personally, I've always been exasperatingly heterosexual, but I can see how INTP traits in a woman would make that not the case. For example, if I go to some very female-gendered thing (like a bachelorette party or a baby shower) I'm always amazed that, at some point, the women will start "flirting" with me and vying for my attention. I think it's because society is conditioned to value logical ways of being in the world, and in the absence of men, I turn into the next best thing? Some people really need affirmation, and maybe when they're women, they make do and start flirting like crazy with whoever's at hand that can give that affirmative "high" to them. Maybe in their subconscious minds, I'm like those frogs that change sex when necessary. Gender fluid without even trying. It's really too bad I'm not more attracted to women.

But don't lose hope. Even though we're rather "masculine" in our decision-making and reasoning, sometimes cultivating femininity actually makes a lot of sense, and I know I'm not the only INTP woman to do that (there are a lot of them on this board, I think).

First of all, it's less likely to attract attention if you blend in, which in our minds can be a plus. I feel like I'm in drag every time I put on makeup and a dress, but I do it often anyway, because even if I'm not blending in, I like the positive reactions I get, and the sense of power. So while I'll never love shoes, I do love what a pair of great shoes can do for an overall look, and the way that look can open doors, so I might wear them and look like I love them. (If they're not unduly uncomfortable, because what would be the point then.)

Anyway, what I'm saying is, even for INTP women, there are, of course, reasons for being feminine and heterosexual too, even if these things weren't exactly "made" for your temperament. There are a whole lot of drawbacks to both of these as well, so it really depends on the INTP woman and what she decides is more worth it to her.

PS--I think our reasonable, less emotional nature is part of why some men, when they find us, want to marry us right away. For some men, we seem a bit too good to be true, if they're not of an emotional nature themselves (and don't have much interest in becoming moreso). So watch out for that.
 

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I have met a couple of self identified INTP women at MBTI socials. They talked and behaved like guys, hanging out with guys comfortably. Perhaps they are still young (in their early to mid 20s) and not entirely comfortable being feminine (I remember my 20s and disliked being girly).

I wonder how two INTPs would get along, too. I watched and listened to INTP guys at these gatherings talking to each other. There seemed to be a mutual liking initially. However, thinking is a very private function. One INTP thinks something that may not be what another INTP thinks. It can result in lively debate or exchange. It can also lead to not seeing eye to eye.
 

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I find these responses most interesting so far. Though a limited sample, it would seem INTP females are more open to the idea than males.

Gender fluid, meaning most of them dress and act like boys. They mostly like women but will be attracted very feminine males. This is the term they used so I'm using it here.

I've noticed in meeting the INTPs I've met in person I seem to be in a weird position. I am a social chameleon and blend in perfectly with all types. However I do not like the social aspects of dating and attracting the opposite sex. I prefer less lies and more up front thoughts most people aren't very open with what they want.

Though I have not dated an INTP female, I love my interactions with them. They're always blunt, honest and good for a laugh. I've also noticed with INTPs while quiet and internally thinking, if you listen and give them an open forum all those thoughts will come out to a delightful exchange of ideas. Ideal gf in my mind, spend a night talking for hours, laughing and debating without raging. Spend a night ignoring each other and chasing our own pursuits. Or quiet cuddles while doing the same passive background noise thing. Although I may be romanticizing the idea based on what I know of INTPs.
 

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I know 1.5 INTP couples(1 INTP man dating 2 INTP women, don't ask me how he did it). One of the relationships is long distance, and their regular interaction is basically the most entertaining part of my day(I get a front row seat). One of the relationships is within the same city, and I don't really get to see them interact as much.
As for how things go, all three of them are horny as fuck, and basically maul each other when they get a chance. They are all also extremely witty.


I honestly wouldn't be surprised if they had pun battles while fucking.
 

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As for how things go, all three of them are horny as fuck, and basically maul each other when they get a chance.
Yeah, the upside to both having a limited emotional vocabulary is that your crude methods of expressing feelings might necessarily involve...really basic behaviors. But because your ability to receive complex emotional interaction is also limited, it's really effective for both people and does the job well.

Also...think about it. These people spend all their time in their heads. They want to get OUT.
 

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Gender fluid, meaning most of them dress and act like boys. They mostly like women but will be attracted very feminine males. This is the term they used so I'm using it here.
Maybe it was my growing up around a few tom-boyish girls when I was young. I can find them attractive sometimes.

I only know one confirmed INTP woman IRL. She is dating an ISTJ friend of mine. I haven't got a full impression of her yet. We socialize as a group (INTP women, ISTJ and others). I would like to get into more conversations and even debates with her one-on-one, but I don't want to make my ISTJ friend feel threatened by showing her too much attention. I know she has already expressed to me her interest in NTs over STs and she seems to act a little goofy around me. I'm pretty sure she is attracted to me, but I don't give her any response that I recognize it. I don't want to interfere with her dating my ISTJ friend.
 

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Here I am, INTP-T female dating INTP-A male for almost three years now.
And, considering the term "gerderfluid" as how you described it, yes I'm totally genderfluid.
Tomboy since ever, bisexual attracted by girls mostly and by feminine (or somewhat more delicate and caring than me in behaviour) boys.
 

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Here I am, INTP-T female dating INTP-A male for almost three years now.
And, considering the term "gerderfluid" as how you described it, yes I'm totally genderfluid.
Tomboy since ever, bisexual attracted by girls mostly and by feminine (or somewhat more delicate and caring than me in behaviour) boys.
Interesting, I figured an INTP union would probably be long lasting and functional. By feminine males I meant guys who look very feminine generally the guys who go through goth phases in high school or college. But wanting someone more soft and emotional while being an INTP makes sense.
 
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