Are there any other 9's here? I always feel like the odd woman out as an INFP because I don't have the most common of our enneagram which seems to be 4w5. I actually had to finally go get professionally tested because it was driving me nuts that I couldn't figure out my cognitive functions. I would score infp on all of the internet tests, but could never identify with the others of my type. Then enneagram was explained to me and everything made a whole lot more sense.
I feel like I'm always wanting to grab the other INFP's I know irl and yell, "Get ahold of yourself! Your feelings are not as complex as you make them out to be! Stop being so sad and getting so offended about everything, it's depressing and makes me uncomfortable!" But I don't. Because that would disrupt the peace.
No offense, sorry guys, haha.
I've probably been too much of a jerk in this post, so feel free to bash me. I have the same kinds of feelings of despair and angst that we all do, I just tend to try and ignore them more because I believe that everyone is too wrapped up in their own goings on to really care. Plus, I'd rather look on the bright side so that my internal peace isn't shattered.
I might be a 9. I also test strongly as a 7. But I've played the peacekeeper role for most of my life. Key is not to be a doormat because of that feeling.
From what I can tell, Type 9 is the second most common Enneagram type for INFPs. Which makes me strange because it's pretty much always my lowest score, any time I take an Enneagram test.
I feel like I'm always wanting to grab the other INFP's I know irl and yell, "Get ahold of yourself! Your feelings are not as complex as you make them out to be! Stop being so sad and getting so offended about everything, it's depressing and makes me uncomfortable!"
Nope, but I'm a 6w5. Not obsessed with my image enough to be 4w5 first, too cynical and indulging of my anger and pessimism to be a 9. But I do have some minor 9 and 4 influence in my tritype.
Hey there, I understand your frustration. I'm an INFP, type 9w1, I also feel a little under-represented in the INFP bunch but it's ok, as an INFP I like being unique. So as funny as it seems, not being mainstream unique but being double quirky is fine with me. :laughing:
What I can say there is a certain struggle to being a Type 9 because I feel like defending my values quite often, but if I do that, I tend to create disharmony (by pointing things out there are wrong, for example). As we (type 9s) thrive in harmony, this can be a little stressful. I learned to breath deeply and let go of a lot of things and fight only for really important core values, it's the only way. I still piss off a lot of people though, hate the drama that comes out.
It's funny that what you say, including the feelings sorry for (not) being a jerk, sounds sooooType 9. :laughing: I would say, be a "jerk" if there is no other way to say what you have to say nicely and be a "jerk" if it corsses something important for you.
To emphasize the pleasant in life is not a bad thing, of course—it is simply a limited and limiting approach to life. If Nines see the silver lining in every cloud as a way of protecting themselves from the cold and rain, other types have their distorting viewpoints, too. For example, Fours focus on their own woundedness and victimization, Ones on what is wrong with how things are, and so forth. By contrast, Nines tend to focus on the “bright side of life” so that their peace of mind will not be shaken. But rather than deny the dark side of life, what Nines must understand is that all of the perspectives presented by the other types are true, too. Nines must resist the urge to escape into “premature Buddhahood” or the “white light” of the Divine and away from the mundane world. They must remember that “the only way out is through.”
Mmm... yes! I agree. Enneagram is great. Thanks again to all who introduced me. Don't know how I made it this far without.
Like you, I would meet other INFPs and be like... they are SO artsy, SO sad, SO deep that I felt like I must be missing something or they surely couldn't be INFP (?). Ha.
I understand what you mean about 4s. Sometimes they can get really dark - darker than me. I am oddly attracted to the melancholy though for some reason. Maybe because there is a certain depth that 4s have that I do not find in myself. There is probably also a little part of me that wishes I was even less ordinary and more individualistic than I am already am. Maybe they also make me feel better about myself, functioning in the real world. They seem to either have a really hard time or are so into their own personals they don't notice. Lol. Love you 4s. :love_heart: There's a nice thing about being ALL one way, even if it is not society's way. From what I have observed, 4s seem to do that better than me.
I definitely identify with 4 at times. My ISTP 9 has tried to teach me to simplify. It helps.
As 6, I'm working on moving that way --> 9, that is. You are what I want to be when I grow up! Heh.
I feel like I'm always wanting to grab the other INFP's I know irl and yell, "Get ahold of yourself! Your feelings are not as complex as you make them out to be! Stop being so sad and getting so offended about everything, it's depressing and makes me uncomfortable!" But I don't. Because that would disrupt the peace.
Even as a 4 I want to do that to other INFPs. But then I would be a hypocrite and they would have t do t back to me lol.
Type 4's slogan is "Oh woe is me".
Type 9's slogan is "Everything is fine. *cries on the inside*".
Having 4 and 9 in your tritype is much like carrying a huge bucket of emotions and trying to make sure it doesn't accidentally spill out on to someone, but on occasion there are a few leaks or spills.
Lol I completely understand, I'm a 9 too. I believe I'm a 974 actually.
Four's see their pain as special or different. Nine's see their pain as part of the universal human condition. Fours amplify negative emotions, nines amplify positive emotions.
Like when I experience pain or loss and I start pitying myself, there's a voice in my head that says "Everybody suffers, push through it and get over it." The weird thing is that I'm attracted to melancholic art, music, and I feel a lot of grief when I see what other people experience. But I tend to trivialize my own experiences and focus on the good things instead.
Lol I completely understand, I'm a 9 too. I believe I'm a 974 actually.
Four's see their pain as special or different. Nine's see their pain as part of the universal human condition. Fours amplify negative emotions, nines amplify positive emotions.
Like when I experience pain or loss and I start pitying myself, there's a voice in my head that says "Everybody suffers, push through it and get over it." The weird thing is that I'm attracted to melancholic art, music, and I feel a lot of grief when I see what other people experience. But I tend to trivialize my own experiences and focus on the good things instead.
Hm, you put it in an interesting way, I feel like I experience it that way too with 4 as my core and 9 as my body type. I also tend to trivialize, but I focus on the bad lol.
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