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Hello all! Recently I've been feeling like I don't really feel anything and I was wondering if this was a common trait in INFPs? I'm obviously a feeler and I'm about 99% sure I'm an INFP, but there's something about me that doesn't feel quite...right. I'm incredibly sensitive but when someone's upset I'm unsure of how to comfort them. Whenever someone starts expressing emotions, I get incredibly uncomfortable. I'll cry at films or TV shows, but not when family members of mine die. I'll be talking to a prospective boyfriend or girlfriend for months on end, and then the second they tell me they have feelings for me or want to be in a relationship with me I panic and I run the other way. I'm nice to people to their face but I'm incredibly judgmental and mean in my head. I would never dare say those things out loud because I'm better than that but I'm not the kind, poetic character that INFPs are always made out to be. Is this normal? Is this a Fi thing? Or is this just a symptom of depression?
 

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Nothing seems out of place. You seem as a functional human being, as well as an INFP.

Why do you get uncomfortable when someone else expresses their emotions?

I like your avatar.
 

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Well the easiest way to tell if something up with you or if you're just being who you are is to ask whether you've always been this way since childhood or something has changed recently.
 

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You sound normal to me.

I'm incredibly sensitive but when someone's upset I'm unsure of how to comfort them. Whenever someone starts expressing emotions, I get incredibly uncomfortable. I'll cry at films or TV shows, but not when family members of mine die.
Yes. Everything normal lol

I'm nice to people to their face but I'm incredibly judgmental and mean in my head.
I go through phases with this. It switches on and off. Depending on whether I've been spending too much time in my head.

I've been feeling like I don't really feel anything
Mmmhhh sounds from your post that you do feel stuff, it just depends on the circumstance. It looks like you find it easier to feel emotionally detached from reality, but easier to be attached to fiction. Sounds normal.

I don't think you have depression, just based on that. But maybe you have trouble connecting to "reality" emotionally. I go through phases like that, where "reality" looks like a science textbook to me, and if someone shows up with feelz, I just read + treat them as if they're a machine that I need to figure out mentally (not emotionally), I'm super cold, unempathetic and have a hard time understanding why this person/situation wants me to get emotional when in my mind all I'm seeing is facts. "This person died, well that's just how life is, death is just a fact-thingy", "Your boyfriend dumped you? Well, dumping is just a fact of life, I don't know what to tell you, just deal..." and so on. If someone is crying in front of me I feel awkward, cause all I want to do is know the facts of their situation, and I can't empathize.

I used to be like this 24/7 growing up (with reality, not fiction). It's only in my late 20s that the ice started to melt and I started to feel slightly more emotionally connected to "reality" and not just fiction, hypotheticals, archetypes, etc. Don't sweat it, sounds normal. Ofc if it's something that bothers you, you can always improve, whatever that means. It was important to me to learn how to socialize better, so I made a decision at one point to improve my social skills. They still suck, but they're way better than before. Improvement is just a matter of how much something bothers you and if it's stopping you from your life goals. If it isn't stopping you, then good.
 
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