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INFP going crazy here. I know us INFPs are a very passionate bunch, but my passion is making really depressed and I don't know what to do. I'm finishing off my second semester of college and I'm really depressed. I'm going for nursing and I was not even a point away from getting an A in anatomy and physiology, and now I'm getting a C+ in sociology because it was online and there was a situation with the final exam online where I didn't finish it and I'm not sure if my professor will re-open it so I can finish it. Now my gpa is going from a 3.68 to 3.34 at this point and it is actually making me really depressed. I came into college wanting to do amazing in it, I put my all into it and really did everything to try to get A's in my classes and now that it hasn't been working out, I feel absolutely horrible and depressed because I place all my self-worth on college. I put so much of myself into it that now I feel like nothing else in my life is really going for me. Me wanting to be a nurse has turned into me destroying myself to be the best at school because of how competitive nursing programs supposedly are.

I really tried to better myself. I started painting again and writing cause I finally had the time to do it after two long semesters of taking anatomy and adjusting to college, tried hanging out with my friends and looking for a second job so I can start saving up money to travel. All these things I tried to look forward to but it isn't working. At community college I can retake the sociology class and it'll replace the grade so I'm hoping it'll all work out, but it's not going to solve the main issue here: That I place the entirety of my self worth on my grades.

Sorry to be a bother, I just need to reach out in hopes that someone will understand.
 

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Aww, I hope things get better for you! I understand to some degree. I'm only a rising junior in high school, but I am already starting to feel the pressure of getting accepted into colleges. My GPA is all right (3.9 unweighted and 4.56 weighted), but I was devastated when I got my first B in algebra II honors this year. Since then, I've felt trapped by expectations and wanting to strive to do well in school, but I've just felt terrible since then; it's like the dream I've had since kindergarten (maintaining straight A's throughout my entire school career) died when I got that B, and it feels like I'm just trying to revive it without success, going on without a purpose. The career I had been wanting to pursue since I was that same age seems way less appealing to me, partially because the competition is so high (veterinary medicine, so I can understand the competition for nursing as well). I've found a new goal, being an English teacher, but the friend that inspired me to be one is possibly leaving me over the summer (and I have feelings for her, too, so the fact that I might not be able to be with her is rather heartbreaking), and the teacher that inspired me won't be my teacher much longer as I move on to eleventh grade. I understand what it feels like when everything seems to be falling apart and the worry it brings for the future.

I guess all you can do is make the most of the time you have away from the stress: write, paint, make art, treat yourself; you've been through a lot, you deserve some relief and happiness. I can empathize with you, but I can't be of much help, unfortunately. Hope things get better!
 

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Wow, a 3.9 is excellent! Competition is really stressful, but if you really wanted to study veterinary medicine, it's something you should still strive for and use English teaching as a plan B, unless you really DID end up falling in love with English as a career. And it sounds like your experiencing a lot of loss as well, which happens near the end of high school. I actually just graduated high school last year, and it's challenging to lose what you know so well, such as your English teacher who inspired you and your best friend. These transitions are hard. When I graduated, I broke up with my boyfriend of three years and went through some other things that made entering adulthood initially very depressing.

As hypocritical as I may sound for worrying about my grades, seriously, don't worry about that one B in high school, especially in such a hard class. You WILL get accepted into colleges, and if you're worried, do extracurricular to add to your applications. And DO NOT give up on your dreams. "If you're going through hell, keep going." It's easier said than done but good things in life aren't easy to obtain. Even through these feelings, we gotta keep going. And compared to a lot of people your age, you are very ambitious so I think you will do just fine in life!
 

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Thanks for the reassurance! I wish I could help you because you just restored a lot of faith in me, but I'd just say to do things you enjoy, be with people you enjoy being around, and just create things. You're a good person and deserve the best! :happy:

P.S. I'm not sure if you're an animal person or not, but I've found that being around animals can make someone feel a lot better, especially dogs and horses. You can also tell them about your emotions, and they don't seem to understand, but at least they listen and can't judge your feelings (it may seem a bit weird, but I've found that this works for me).
 
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Something happening that messed up a final exam?

This would upset anyone.

Are you fully looking forward to a career in nursing or is it something you're unsure of?

I thought I wanted to do nursing but realized that it would be to regimented and hardcore (in terms of constantly seeing people emotionally at their worst and often bleeding/pooping/puking/crying/yelling) for me. I can handle that stuff in small doses (as they say, any idiot can handle a crisis) but I believe it would wear horribly on sensitive people day-to-day, year-to-year. I think it's best left for people who are really good at compartmentalizing.

All of that on top of realizing job prospects for nurses aren't as great as everyone says they are, turned me off. There's a shortage of nurses (as in greedy people want to milk one nurse for the work of two or three) but there is no excess of nursing jobs or nursing students.

Anyway that's just my opinion on it. I don't now what yours is.
 

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Yes, it was an online final that's 20% of my grade. I'm just going to retake the class and reverse what it has done to my GPA.

I am positive that I want to be a nurse. I started doing volunteer EMS when I was 16 and I really enjoy doing patient care, learning about science and the human anatomy (as stressful as it was, I LOVED anatomy and physiology class) and now I work as a tech in a psychiatric hospital in hopes of being a psych nurse someday. But if I happen to not do nursing I'm probably going to go into Occupational Therapy. So either way, I wanna work in healthcare, it's where I am passionate and look forward to working hard.
 

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INFP going crazy here. I know us INFPs are a very passionate bunch, but my passion is making really depressed and I don't know what to do. I'm finishing off my second semester of college and I'm really depressed. I'm going for nursing and I was not even a point away from getting an A in anatomy and physiology, and now I'm getting a C+ in sociology because it was online and there was a situation with the final exam online where I didn't finish it and I'm not sure if my professor will re-open it so I can finish it. Now my gpa is going from a 3.68 to 3.34 at this point and it is actually making me really depressed. I came into college wanting to do amazing in it, I put my all into it and really did everything to try to get A's in my classes and now that it hasn't been working out, I feel absolutely horrible and depressed because I place all my self-worth on college. I put so much of myself into it that now I feel like nothing else in my life is really going for me. Me wanting to be a nurse has turned into me destroying myself to be the best at school because of how competitive nursing programs supposedly are.

I really tried to better myself. I started painting again and writing cause I finally had the time to do it after two long semesters of taking anatomy and adjusting to college, tried hanging out with my friends and looking for a second job so I can start saving up money to travel. All these things I tried to look forward to but it isn't working. At community college I can retake the sociology class and it'll replace the grade so I'm hoping it'll all work out, but it's not going to solve the main issue here: That I place the entirety of my self worth on my grades.

Sorry to be a bother, I just need to reach out in hopes that someone will understand.
I know exactly how you feel. For some odd reason I really wanted to be a wildlife biologist out of high school. I loved animals and love being in the outdoors. So I enrolled in a university and jumped right into biology and chemistry classes. I really struggled and my grades were less than stellar. I got super depressed and started to doubt my own intelligence. Looking back I identify two reason for my failures in academics. First, I just wasn't mature enough academically. I really shouldn't have started college before I was 21. I needed a couple of years to transition from living a daydreamer's lifestyle with the security that my parents provided to the reality of living and getting things done in the real world by myself. Second, I was in the wrong major. You know why I struggled in biology and chemistry? Because I find it to be achingly dull and uninteresting. There are other ways of being around animals and in the outdoors, so I started exploring different career paths (turn out there are lots of more important things I want in a career than being in the outdoors and around animals). I am a late bloomer but I tried to push myself in the way I saw my peers going about life. These are my experiences and may not be applicable to you, but you may want to look at taking a year or two away from university (that is if you don't have a scholarship or something to make this difficult). Try working as a CNA or in a hospital setting to get an idea of if being a nurse is really what you want to do. If it is, that will give you all the more drive and discipline to get through those boring courses.
 

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I know exactly how you feel. For some odd reason I really wanted to be a wildlife biologist out of high school. I loved animals and love being in the outdoors. So I enrolled in a university and jumped right into biology and chemistry classes. I really struggled and my grades were less than stellar. I got super depressed and started to doubt my own intelligence. Looking back I identify two reason for my failures in academics. First, I just wasn't mature enough academically. I really shouldn't have started college before I was 21. I needed a couple of years to transition from living a daydreamer's lifestyle with the security that my parents provided to the reality of living and getting things done in the real world by myself. Second, I was in the wrong major. You know why I struggled in biology and chemistry? Because I find it to be achingly dull and uninteresting. There are other ways of being around animals and in the outdoors, so I started exploring different career paths (turn out there are lots of more important things I want in a career than being in the outdoors and around animals). I am a late bloomer but I tried to push myself in the way I saw my peers going about life. These are my experiences and may not be applicable to you, but you may want to look at taking a year or two away from university (that is if you don't have a scholarship or something to make this difficult). Try working as a CNA or in a hospital setting to get an idea of if being a nurse is really what you want to do. If it is, that will give you all the more drive and discipline to get through those boring courses.
Wildlife biology sounds incredibly interesting! It sounds like being a park ranger or doing something like animal rescue is something to consider. At least if you did animal rescue, you could help animals and rescue missions would probably require going outside. I really enjoyed reading your story, it seems this is something INFP similarly have to deal with cause we're so idealistic and it's good that you explored other career paths. Out of curiosity, what was the result of this?
 

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@fairies

It sounds like you're cut out for the job.
 
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You guys are over reacting so badly to a few bad marks. I could only wish to be where you are. I dropped out at 15 and I'm now 26 and have been studying my GED. You can't possibly feel like giving up that easily! So you got less perfect, give yourself a break and keep moving. This is a minor set back.
 

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Wildlife biology sounds incredibly interesting! It sounds like being a park ranger or doing something like animal rescue is something to consider. At least if you did animal rescue, you could help animals and rescue missions would probably require going outside. I really enjoyed reading your story, it seems this is something INFP similarly have to deal with cause we're so idealistic and it's good that you explored other career paths. Out of curiosity, what was the result of this?
I was 20 when I first took a college course that really spoke to me. It was a general world history course. I became a history major immediately afterwards and earned a degree with a 3.8 GPA (well, in the courses I took subsequently). I haven't struggled academically since. Career wise, I am still in the middle of that journey. After I got a degree in history I worked in museums and archives for about 2 years. Then I decided I wanted to be a psychologist. So I took about 24 credit hours of psychology courses and like you worked as a Tech in an inpatient psychiatric hospital. Fun job and I saw stuff that to this day can't believe people would actually do. After I decided I was over psychology I went back and got a Master's in Media Research. Then the economy tanked and the media research field all but disappeared leaving me with a somewhat worthless degree. I was able to get on as a research assistant to an autism study and then moved on to coordinating clinical trials at an academic hospital. I am now a clinical research coordinator. I love the patient interaction but the rest of the job gets a little tedious and there is a lot of office politics. Now I am looking to see what the next phase in my career, if any, will be. If I could just do the patient interaction portion of clinical trials I could do this until retirement. As you can see, like many INFPs, i enjoy learning new things then I get bored and look for new exciting opportunities. I have had amazing experiences working like this but unless I can stay put, I will be financially behind my peers. I wouldn't care if I didn't have to support a family.
 

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@fairies I totally get you but, honestly, I'm so jealous that you have a clear idea of what you want to do! I just finished my junior year of college and have fully accepted my degree totally conflicts with my morals and values and therefore I refuse to go into what people traditionally use it for. With a chemical engineering degree, my options are basically get into big oil and fracking or work on some process where I'd be helping to make part of a chain of some consumer good whether it's some type of plastic, food, or drink. Totally not what I want to do. Hoping to volunteer for the Peace Corps when I graduate and go from there.

As for grades, I say definitely just take it again if you can't get it fixed. But at the same time, grades aren't the end of the world, really. I finished my freshman year with a 2.7. I basically told myself that I'm just not that capable and that there's nothing wrong with being average. Fuck that. My new favorite quote is that there is nothing worse in life than being ordinary. I don't want to do something the rest of my life because society tells me to do it. I want to be passionate about it and enjoy it. That's success to me. Anyways, since the end of freshman year, I've bumped my GPA up to 3.36 now and have made Dean's List in three out of four semesters. It's been tough but I guess it's a nice feeling to know that I am very capable if I put my mind to it. So I guess the point of all this is do whatever you are passionate about. Because if you pursue your passions, you're already out of the ordinary.
 

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Currently studying and doing ok but I don't like the rigidness involved and only subjects that benefit employers being available instead of being able to have a variety of choices and pick what you are good at. For employment I will look to Socialism in which corporations are abolished so they can no longer dictate our lives and the education system at all. Everybody will be able to find a job and none will be without food, income or shelter. Most suffering will end if any kind of socialism comes into power.

At where I live we currently have a right wing neo-liberal government who may plan on implementing secret police to catch whistleblowers, as well as cutting workers rights back to 19th century conditions and are attempting to destroy the unions. They are killing job opportunities for youth with what they are doing or will make conditions too horrible.
 

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Something happening that messed up a final exam?

This would upset anyone.

Are you fully looking forward to a career in nursing or is it something you're unsure of?

I thought I wanted to do nursing but realized that it would be to regimented and hardcore (in terms of constantly seeing people emotionally at their worst and often bleeding/pooping/puking/crying/yelling) for me. I can handle that stuff in small doses (as they say, any idiot can handle a crisis) but I believe it would wear horribly on sensitive people day-to-day, year-to-year. I think it's best left for people who are really good at compartmentalizing.

All of that on top of realizing job prospects for nurses aren't as great as everyone says they are, turned me off. There's a shortage of nurses (as in greedy people want to milk one nurse for the work of two or three) but there is no excess of nursing jobs or nursing students.

Anyway that's just my opinion on it. I don't now what yours is.
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