While my friends enjoy sitting around talking about things in an in-depth manner, I usually don't say much because I see it as a waste of time. Even watching TV has me squirming around. Don't get me wrong, I like small talk, meeting new people, making crude jokes, but not elaborating and going in-depth on the same subject unless I must.
You ESTPs know what I'm talkin about?
Adrenaline, seeing how much E you have explains what is going on with you. I am very close to I on the E/I and close to N on the S/N scale.
I do enjoy meeting new people, and I usually can find a common interest with them, but sometimes they just bore me to death. There was a lady on a rental car bus who wanted to talk. We exchanged pleasantries and then she went on about the weather on her vacations. "Sometimes it rains and sometimes it's clear", she said. Just for giggles, I asked her what she thought the weather would be like on her upcoming vacation, and she said, "I don't know. It may be clear unless of course it rains." That was the longest five minute bus ride of my life.
As a doer, I use conversations as planning stages for something to do. What was the best ride at this amusement park? Where was the nicest spot you have gone on for vacation? And because feeling is our trickster, I try to rely on others to help me out. How did you feel when you started out a business? What is like going through a death, a divorce ETC?
So for the most part, I use conversation as a means to laugh but also for data mining. I am always on the lookout for new ideas, fresh approaches, or under the radar information. I am not sure if you want to change with regards to in depth conversation or not, A, but if you look at a means to help you with future plans, it can be a powerful tool.
