My mother-in-law is a definite ESTJ, the COMPLETE opposite of me! Demanding, judging, never quits working, never quits finding something that needs to be fixed, controlling everyone around her, wants everyone else to value the things the values, and dismisses anything you value that she doesn't. All from a good, caring place of wanting to help, but it's hard to deal with. She'll do anything to help us, but it always means doing it her way. I feel like she's always trying to dig in her claws and turn everyone around her into an army of little "hers" because doing things our own way isn't good enough for her. Anyone else in this situation? How do you deal?