[Navis Amoris]

I can obviously only speak for myself, but I couldn't cheat. And that is for one reason only: I wouldn't get into a relationship with someone I'd cheat on. I'm distant as fuck for the most part, and extremely selective of who associate with. When it comes to relationships I'm naturally even more selective.

However, I think I could cheat in the hypothetical situation where I was married off to some boarish wench by my parents for economic reasons. Or rather, I know I would cheat. It simply wouldn't count as cheating to me, since I'd never have established an emotional connection with that person.

 

[VenusianMizu]

Everyone is capable of it.

The question is, would our morals allow us to, and that answer is more likely than not (can't speak for every INFJ), a big, fat NO. It is beyond all probability that I would cheat. It goes against every single one of my morals to cheat. I couldn't look at myself if I did. I'd feel disgusting and tainted and shit and feel like I have to go to a confessional. And I'm not even Catholic.

 

[Persephone]

• It is estimated that roughly 30 to 60% of all married individuals (in the United States) will engage in infidelity at some point during their marriage (see, Buss and Shackelford for review of this research). And these numbers are probably on the conservative side, when you consider that close to half of all marriages end in divorce (people are more likely to stray as relationships fall apart; also see, who is likely to cheat)

You're not telling me none of these people are INFJs. I won't believe it.

 

[Humilis Curator]

Yes, INFJs are capable of cheating. To think that a specific type is invulnerable of it or anything else because of the way that specific type is, is typist among other negative things. Few people know what they are capable of until they are in that situation. Yes, we can sit here and discuss this and claim that we would not cheat, it makes us feel good, look good, help us sleep better at night et cetera. Do we however, truly know what we would do if put into that situation? The power of the moment and the power of being within the situation and not just looking into it can be quite overwhelming, ask yourself deeply and honestly, not just to rush to the positive avenue that makes ourselves safe and secure that we are good people.

 

[MeganH18]

Everyone is capable of cheating. Some people are just less likely to.

 

[Female INFJ]

I'm not stating that either type is more likely or not to cheat, but I though to add to my previous post: the person I was referring to is likely an ISTP. I think that's a game changer! tee hee. Honestly, reviewing the posts here, and thinking of myself included, I wouldn't cheat, and I see other INFJ's here are pretty serious about what they are writing. Good on all of you that try to remain committed. In the end, even if someone hurt you, you can sleep at night! And also may have in a karmic sense, caused more good upon yourself and others, then bad. I love you all! I won't talk about my miseries too openly, but I like to interact with you on these topics. Thanks to the OP also.

DirtySmilez, also for some interest. I read some article recently about Ashley Madison website. Apparently I would advise all of you to check in there, and see if your loved ones or prospects are in that site! My sister (ISTJ superwoman) actually runs a check there to look for guys she's talking to! And! Several of them are on there. Aparently, in the states, most Ashley Madison members are from Washington. I'm not surprised, I know a dirtbag from there, hahaha. Hey, everyone is human, and they've got their reasons. I may write more later, but I suppose it could be INFJ "goodness", but I always land with sleazy guys. Its kinda fun, most of the time! But tough when looking for "true love". I take responsibility, I've been really silly (too hopeful), when looking for love also.

 

[mzdimples90]

OK.. Im here to vent. :'(

INFJs are definitely capable of cheating. My current INFJ boyfriend (Ni, Fe, Ti, Se to the MAX) really doesn't know wtf he wants. He's cheated on almost every girl he's ever been with, it would be foolish of me to assume that he wouldn't do the same to me, if he hasn't already. Ugh, lets face it, he has. I know when he lies *facepalm*

I think he is a very hurt person deep down with a skewed perception of reality and always finds a way to pettily justify his actions, so he doesn't realize the pain that he causes. He fears commitment because he always thinks there is something better out there, but he also fears letting go, so he strings females along. I've come to this realization after many long conversations with his ex girlfriend/current best friend (ha!). I want to punch him in the face right now for all the things hes done to her. He's also been hung up on his ex girlfriend/first love from many many years ago, that he cheated on and did madd grimey, so consequently she cut him off completely.. Well hey.. good for her! I don't blame her, but he considers it a regret that defines him, and often romanticizes her to be this angelic person that no one else can compete with.

Sigh, & this is the man I love. I hate being a fucking INFP Ahhh!

 

[Jwing24]

I cheat myself all the time.

 

[jeffbobs]

I think its safe to assume every single type has its cheaters. It doesn't matter what type you are, it doesn't determine if you will cheat or not.

But i wouldn't be surprized if it was a lower percentage than a lot of the other types.

 

[goesupinward]

I just cannot see myself cheat. Either with school or relationship, just can't do it. With school, I rather go about with my own abilties without any help, even if it gets a bad grade. It would just eat me up inside knowing that I did it. I had opportunities but decided to turn it down. With relationships, i'm as loyal as it gets. If I am not into my SO anymore or something comes up, I would tell her and get out of the relationship. I wouldn't want her cheating on me behind my back so I wouldn't do it to her. It would just haunt me throughout the relationship.

 

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[saibot]

INFJs are definately capable of cheating. I think it is more interesting to look into the reasons why people of a certain personality type cheat. I guess with INFJs a sudden, strong infatuation with a different person or an "Se-binge" are the likeliest.

As for me, personally, I do not see myself doing it, but would never go so far as to claim it could never ever happen. Having a partner cheat is actually a topic I have a lot of anxiety about, to the point I actually discussed the topic with my past girlfriends, like how they think it would happen if they did it and so on. As for me, I always claimed that if I cheated, it would definately be a "heat of the moment" thing and not something I planned to happen or felt entitled to do. I also feel I have a higher-than-average sex drive, which might lead to the aforementioned "heat of the moment".

 

[shedreamt]

Everyone is capable of cheating. Some people are just less likely to.

What someone said earlier about Fe types being more susceptible to cheating makes a lot of sense. Because Fe is more concerned with protecting people's feelings, it's probably much more difficult to cut ties before moving on. As a Fi type, I can be a cold insensitive bitch about other people's feelings (that's why I love INFJs...y'all have much to teach me in that respect!), but I'll never compromise my moral code. Fi is all about ethics, and putting principles over people's feelings. My infp dad might be an insensitive asshole, but he'd never cheat on my mom (he's too old now, at any rate!).

The first INFJ I had a crush on tried to have an emotional affair with me while trying to hang on to his crumbling relationship with his gf of five years. I didn't understand how such a seemingly sensitive guy could do such a thing. It makes a lot more sense now.

 

[RunForCover07]

This subject gets pretty heated when I have it with people in real life, and it usually ends with me getting pretty pissed off, I’m not going to lie. I’ve been in a couple of relationships that have hit rock bottom, but the last thing I would do is cheat on somebody. This is when people chirp in and say, “Well, you never know what you would do in a situation where…” Yeah, I do know what I would. I would have some self-control and respect for myself and my partner.

When my friends tell me they’ve cheated or are cheating, I lose all respect for them. It's the one thing that I can't look past no matter how many people tell me it's excusable and spin it around. I'm very narrow minded on this subject.

Nothing good comes out of it, just more confusion and pain.

 

[Children Of The Bad Revolution]

Anyone is capable. You can never trust anyone.

 

[An9ela]

I cheat myself all the time.

Ha, I think all INFJ's do that on a regular basis....

 

[Lemxn]

Talking about relationships, you can never know. Every single person is capable of cheating. No one is 100% loyal.

For me it's just an horrible thing but I can't swear to never do it. Because it's the truth.
Like @RunForCover07 said, I often loose respect when friends tell my they cheated. Special my ESFPs "friend", she cheates everyday to his boyfriend and still pretending respect from him in the relationship.

I'm always sincere with those people, sincere and cold because I can't stand those situations but at the same time, who I am to judge?

Cheating it's horrible but it's there...always.

 

[Kendall_Rene]

umm all types are able to cheat. INFJs are typically really loyal, however that doesn't mean that they aren't capable of cheating.

 

[septic tank]

When I first read the title of this thread, I was thinking about cheating in school or on tests. I guess this suggests how detached cheating on a partner is from my moral code. I don't even think about it, and I have a boyfriend so...

Yes, I guess it's possible for me to cheat on someone. But I would give myself so much hell for it, or I would have to go through some radical change in my personality in order to pull it off and not feel as bad.

 

[Stendhal]

Any type can cheat, simple as that. I doubt INFJs to the list of cheating types, but I am sure some INFJs have cheated. The claims from people claiming they could never cheat are not strictly speaking credible, because you cannot really know unless you are presented with the strongest temptations (I of course don't know these people some I'm only going off their posts, which is all I can go off of). Luckily many people never have the virtue tested at its extremely limits.