I'm curious to see if INFJs are melancholic in nature. There are times that I see that INFJs are very positive people, but at the same time there's something in our eyes that makes people ask "Are you okay?". Is it because of our complexity? Our differences from society? Are INFJs sad in nature? Or is it just me? I'm very curious :shocked:
Any thoughts? Feel free to discuss.
Melancholic in nature...Only when my heart hurts.
When the hurt in my heart is deep, I grow very quiet. People that know me well don't ask me if I am ok. They all know that I am walking through my thoughts/feelings/emotions. They, also, know that I will talk when I am ready. I do not fear walking through the heart pains, because I am a survivor.
A child hurting for any and all reasons, an animals plight, poverty, drug abuse, destructive human behavior... goodness...this list could get rather long! They all can make me sad...not depressed because I don't hold onto them. Just like my own heart hurting, I work my way through and figure out what I can do.
This is going to sound selfish, but it is truly not. I am just being realistic. I believe it is far easier for one to work through their own heart pain then another's.
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
from the Serenity Prayer by Reinhold Niebuhr
Complexity of being an INFJ...probably so.
Different than society...each & every being on this earth is different from one to another.