You cause heart palpitations, rawr rawr.
and my green tea high is fading so I'm reverting back to normal. Kind of like a Power Ranger once they de-morph.
Are INFPs cowards? ...or "cowardly"?
This just came to mind, I don't know why.
But I think they seem like cowards. Maybe just to outsiders, though.
What do you think?
But I think they seem like cowards. Maybe just to outsiders, though.
What do you think?
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and my green tea high is fading so I'm reverting back to normal. Kind of like a Power Ranger once they de-morph.
lol. well that's good.You cause heart palpitations, rawr rawr.
and my green tea high is fading so I'm reverting back to normal. Kind of like a Power Ranger once they de-morph.
Yeah man. You gotta have balls.
As INFPs we live inside our heads. And thats cool--we can understand complex ideas, hold deep conversations, and are just all around intelligent folk.
But also uncool---we live inside our heads so much that when we fear something, the fear can be multiplied by our minds taking on epic proportions.
thats why we got to "feel the fear. And do it anyway"
some smart guy told me that having balls (or bravado or spunk, moxie, guts, etc) can open more doors for you than money, a college degree, or many other things. You really got to have guts in this life.
As INFPs we live inside our heads. And thats cool--we can understand complex ideas, hold deep conversations, and are just all around intelligent folk.
But also uncool---we live inside our heads so much that when we fear something, the fear can be multiplied by our minds taking on epic proportions.
thats why we got to "feel the fear. And do it anyway"
some smart guy told me that having balls (or bravado or spunk, moxie, guts, etc) can open more doors for you than money, a college degree, or many other things. You really got to have guts in this life.
I don't think you can call someone a coward based on their personality type. I know I'm definitely not a coward, and would be ready to prove myself if anyone were to tell me otherwise. Just cause I lean on internal feelings and external intuition doesn't make me a fearful person.
I fear that I am too brave for my own good to the point were I would risk my life one day. Then again its because I have this warrior spirit in me that is well hidden.
Or maybe your rose colored glasses.I fear that I am too brave for my own good to the point were I would risk my life one day. Then again its because I have this warrior spirit in me that is well hidden.
i am..i'm not a fan of danger...at all
they can be cowardly no more than any other type. they just tend to be cowardly about the things that people notice more
True. I think we have fear that will come up in everyday life. But we are probably more brave when it comes to things the general population might fear.they can be cowardly no more than any other type. they just tend to be cowardly about the things that people notice more
I relate to this. What was going through my head when I read the title of this thread was much like what this poster said. When I am faced with confrontation I ask myself is this issue worth fighting for? Does this go against one of my principles? If it does, then I consider it worth standing up for; fighting for. If not, then, no.I'm not a coward. I think I would probably be the kind of person who could retain integrity even while being martyred, whether the form of the martyrdom was physical or emotional. I will defend what is right at all costs. Some here have seen me prove it. I had a gun to my head a couple of times when I was with my ex, and I was prepared to die before validating his misogyny. When my high school wanted to make us wear uniforms, even while I was shaking with fear because of how much I dislike public speaking, I worded the most eloquent response possible at the meeting where they were to decide, and I successfully, single-handedly prevented the stripping of our individuality by giving the most persuasive argument there. When something matters to me enough, I can suffer pretty much anything for it.
I am afraid of almost everything, though. The strength of my fear makes my courage more meaningful.
Under ordinary circumstances, I am so afraid of heights that you couldn't get me to climb to the top of a ladder, but if I had something worth climbing for, I would do it without hesitation. I think all of my fears are that way.
Lol I was just thinking.. "I guess swallowing pills the size of my wrist is not worth not being a coward for"I relate to this. What was going through my head when I read the title of this thread was much like what this poster said. When I am faced with confrontation I ask myself is this issue worth fighting for? Does this go against one of my principles? If it does, then I consider it worth standing up for; fighting for. If not, then, no.
I am on the same page as Snail. I have had my life in the balance more than once and have not backed down. I am the most patient person I know, and have been told so by many people. I will endure extreme abuse sometimes rather than retaliate, but it is not cowardice it is the strength to not make war even when someone else really wants it. Because wars don't really help people, showing them the power of love and self control offers them a better alternative, an alternative that can really make things better. But I also will not say things that are untrue, or do something I believe to be wrong even with my life on the line. I have been told that I am probably the strongest person they have ever met and have earned the respect of some pretty intimidating people and I haven't done it through violence but through this patience and a total lack of cowardice. I do experience extreme fear sometimes but my determination is stronger.
Courage is an important virtue to me. As far as moral courage goes that is as well. At the same time however I don't try to be stupid: so naturally I use opportunities to avoid seemingly dangerous / unnecessarily situations. Also I don't depend on social validation as well of the default type.This just came to mind, I don't know why.
But I think they seem like cowards. Maybe just to outsiders, though.
What do you think?
I've some times taken courages acts to the point of appearing insane as far as I know. I've stood up against bullies to the point that they have feared me. I voice things that other people would see as disadvantageous / stupid / dangerous / no point to.
In my opinion people that play games with others, uses facades, sacrifices their integrity and being dishonest and hide their vulnerability is the real cowards.
I personally like to be feared (but in the right way that is -- respectfully if possible) rather than to be loved.
There are of course times that I might be cowardly but I don't beat myself up for it.
I walk around hoping someone will start shit so I can break some faces.
I'm scared of more things than the average guy. Mostly when it comes to social situations. Sometimes it stops me from saying something I would like to have said..or making a phone call. But if it's important, I'm able to say what I have to say...and make the damn phone call. In fact, there are so many things I fear but get done anyway. Even the simple task of calling to order a pizza; I always get it done, because the others would be mad at me.
In a way, I think I'm a coward because I fear more things and have more inhibitions than "normal people" but in another way I think I'm quite brave because the fact that I have more fears means that I face more fears per day than the average guy. Maybe it cancels itself out that way?
In a way, I think I'm a coward because I fear more things and have more inhibitions than "normal people" but in another way I think I'm quite brave because the fact that I have more fears means that I face more fears per day than the average guy. Maybe it cancels itself out that way?
I think fear is natural and I certainly don't look down on people who are defined, ruled or plagued by it. I have anxiety and paranoia myself. I also don't think people 'should' be strong; especially men. The idea that a person should be something is very damaging to a lot of people and I would hate that a person would feel any lesser because they don't have traits society values. I hate the concept of weakness, and it's often defined and prized in Te or Se terms, and it's detrimental to people who aren't explicitly defined by a Te mindset.
But in regards to myself... I am certainly not afraid to confront people and i'm not afraid of an argument. If someone says something I think is offensive, depending on the situation, I will in some way react. Whether it be to reach understanding, to probe, or to be abrasive and directly confront. I do go through dare devil phases were I attempt many crazy kind of things I wouldn't normally do. Unfortunately I think this is related to manic highs :\
Usually I can disassociate to the point of moving through a fear brought on by anxiety. Sometimes I just feel nothing.
But i'm sure many infps' can relate to the experience of being charged on adrenaline and Fi and basically having a diminished sense of fear. I experience that in emergency situations... or something that really seriously breaches something I think is right. I get a surge of energy and become like a steam roller. It's not always a good thing of course.
Can I back out of things? can I say something and do another? can I not stand up and say something when a value of mine is being crossed? absolutely. Personal integrity is important to me, but I very rarely live up to my own standards.. and sometimes I just say "fuck it" and don't care attempting to, because I get very angry at myself.
But in regards to myself... I am certainly not afraid to confront people and i'm not afraid of an argument. If someone says something I think is offensive, depending on the situation, I will in some way react. Whether it be to reach understanding, to probe, or to be abrasive and directly confront. I do go through dare devil phases were I attempt many crazy kind of things I wouldn't normally do. Unfortunately I think this is related to manic highs :\
Usually I can disassociate to the point of moving through a fear brought on by anxiety. Sometimes I just feel nothing.
But i'm sure many infps' can relate to the experience of being charged on adrenaline and Fi and basically having a diminished sense of fear. I experience that in emergency situations... or something that really seriously breaches something I think is right. I get a surge of energy and become like a steam roller. It's not always a good thing of course.
Can I back out of things? can I say something and do another? can I not stand up and say something when a value of mine is being crossed? absolutely. Personal integrity is important to me, but I very rarely live up to my own standards.. and sometimes I just say "fuck it" and don't care attempting to, because I get very angry at myself.
Yup, I admit freely to being a coward. Some weeks a go me and my mom discovered there was a snake in the house. Most probably not a venomous one, but I'm no snake expert and you might never know. First thing I did? Run out of the house while shouting at my mom to be careful "because what if it's venomous?" First thing my mom did? Get a broomstick, shove it out of the house and then shut all the doors. I don't know what I'd do if I were alone, heh
Also I hate phones in general and I usually ignore the phone ringing if I think I can get away with it. If it's important enough I'll make a phone call to a stranger, but I'll have to talk myself into doing it. For some reason I act like a total spastic when I have to explain something important over the phone to a stranger.
So yeah, until now, I have had a slight tendency to avoid problems instead of facing them up-front. I am certain though, that courage is something which can be learned and trained when one is motivated enough to confront their fears.
Also I hate phones in general and I usually ignore the phone ringing if I think I can get away with it. If it's important enough I'll make a phone call to a stranger, but I'll have to talk myself into doing it. For some reason I act like a total spastic when I have to explain something important over the phone to a stranger.
So yeah, until now, I have had a slight tendency to avoid problems instead of facing them up-front. I am certain though, that courage is something which can be learned and trained when one is motivated enough to confront their fears.
a snake? thats nothing compared to a half inch bug in the bedroom. i too scream from mommy, and if she is busy i will wait however long after i have been forced to smack it dead, to pick it up.Yup, I admit freely to being a coward. Some weeks a go me and my mom discovered there was a snake in the house. Most probably not a venomous one, but I'm no snake expert and you might never know. First thing I did? Run out of the house while shouting at my mom to be careful "because what if it's venomous?" First thing my mom did? Get a broomstick, shove it out of the house and then shut all the doors. I don't know what I'd do if I were alone, heh
Also I hate phones in general and I usually ignore the phone ringing if I think I can get away with it. If it's important enough I'll make a phone call to a stranger, but I'll have to talk myself into doing it. For some reason I act like a total spastic when I have to explain something important over the phone to a stranger.
So yeah, until now, I have had a slight tendency to avoid problems instead of facing them up-front. I am certain though, that courage is something which can be learned and trained when one is motivated enough to confront their fears.
picking them up is seriously the worst part.
Nicely put. I get that feeling too. My pissed off alter ego is an ISTP. I'm not afraid to do anything when I'm mad.I walk around hoping someone will start shit so I can break some faces.
In my house (which BTW seems to be infested with spiders and crickets - DAMN THOSE CRICKETS!) my father (ESTJ) and brother (ESTP) are the ones who get freaked out by bugs and my mother (ESFJ) and I are the ones who deal with them, so in that respect my household kinda throws the preconceived notions of type (and gender) out the window. I prefer to deal with the bugs anyway because my brother or father would kill them and I catch them and put them outside. I guess that's where my INFP nature comes in?a snake? thats nothing compared to a half inch bug in the bedroom. i too scream from mommy, and if she is busy i will wait however long after i have been forced to smack it dead, to pick it up.
picking them up is seriously the worst part.
I too, have a crippling phobia of bugs, even squashed ones, but I didn't want to mention it alongside the other two anecdotes as I wouldn't like to earn myself a reputation of "Ultimate Wimp of Ultimate Destiny"a snake? thats nothing compared to a half inch bug in the bedroom. i too scream from mommy, and if she is busy i will wait however long after i have been forced to smack it dead, to pick it up.
picking them up is seriously the worst part.
Damn
I failed
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