I too, have a crippling phobia of bugs, even squashed ones, but I didn't want to mention it alongside the other two anecdotes as I wouldn't like to earn myself a reputation of "Ultimate Wimp of Ultimate Destiny"
Damn
I failed
Are INFPs cowards? ...or "cowardly"?
This just came to mind, I don't know why.
But I think they seem like cowards. Maybe just to outsiders, though.
What do you think?
But I think they seem like cowards. Maybe just to outsiders, though.
What do you think?
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I failed
lol. hey i saw your blog video about being an infp and i must say i have a hard time imagining you there getting frightened because of a roach :3I too, have a crippling phobia of bugs, even squashed ones, but I didn't want to mention it alongside the other two anecdotes as I wouldn't like to earn myself a reputation of "Ultimate Wimp of Ultimate Destiny"
Damn
I failed
Believe me XD it has happened too many times. Sometimes I even lost sleep because there were bugs flying around in my bedroom and I didn't want to fall asleep with the possibility of them crawling all over me. If one of them was unwise enough to sit still on the ground for a while, I would step on it with and would leave my slipper on top of it because I didn't want to see insect guts.lol. hey i saw your blog video about being an infp and i must say i have a hard time imagining you there getting frightened because of a roach :3
... I have improved a lot though xD
"Cowards" is a very relative term.
i know. a while ago i had to go around asking what it even really means."Cowards" is a very relative term.
basically i got "coward = person with no balls/whimp"
Cowardly? No. Unwilling to cause a ruckus unless it's actually important? Yes.
Nothin' wrong with that. Perhaps we get more scared than others about some things, we also get less scared about some things too. Each type I'd wager has fear 'hot-spots'. INFPs are silly enough to always be analysing themselves (mostly unfavourably unfortunately), and if you call yourself anything for long enough, other people believe it and parrot it back to you.
Push comes to shove, if it's important enough, you'd act bravely no matter how scared you are. This is true for me anyway.
Nothin' wrong with that. Perhaps we get more scared than others about some things, we also get less scared about some things too. Each type I'd wager has fear 'hot-spots'. INFPs are silly enough to always be analysing themselves (mostly unfavourably unfortunately), and if you call yourself anything for long enough, other people believe it and parrot it back to you.
Push comes to shove, if it's important enough, you'd act bravely no matter how scared you are. This is true for me anyway.
lolol i too carry a vastly inane fear of bugs. :crying:
I've never been called this, nor do I see myself this way. I'm pretty consistent in standing up for what I believe in. I don't see conflict-avoidant as being a coward, I see it as avoiding unnecessary drama.
I often feel like a coward, because I'm afraid to try or stand up for something, but I know that if I'm angry enough I'm pretty brave. Especially if I really see no wrong in what I believe in.
Coward? No, not exactly...I may not be the most adventurous person on the planet, but I am not a fraidy-cat. I'd call it caution, not cowardice.:wink: Seriously, now. I know that I have very deep-seated, quiet reclusive-ness and--carefulness, would you say? But I won't run when necessary danger stares me in the face--too disgraceful, really. :tongue:
I don't know if we seem to be cowards, or if people of other MBTI types just see as completely non-threatening and detached. I think the detachment from a lot of things could be perceived as cowardice, if we were more prone to act and then step away. As it stands, I feel like a lot of INFPs are in the clouds and not coming anywhere near conflict.
Quoting you cos I liked your previous post. I'm interested in many things but I'm not so interested in '1' thing that I'll seek out all possible information on it. I'll look up stuff on it depending on how interested I am, but after a while something else will strike my fancy... Anywhoo someone wants to start arguing (about something I'm interested in/ passionate about) I don't believe I know enough to argue, or that the words/ facts whatever don't readily come to mind, so I won't argue.*however, if the fight is not one of our strong 'beliefs' are believe INFP's are perfectly capable of arguing, even liking it.
I hate people who will state things as 'fact' even though its just their opinion.
If its about anything I don't care about I just won't argue at all.
I hate conflict and criticism
I'll avoid it as much as I can.
Someone in the position of criticizing & causing conflict for me... Where I have to respond, I'm defensive & emotional, hot headed and annoyed. I hate that they've made me feel so horrible. They're my enemy.
I want peace and quiet
Thus conscience does make cowards of us all
I think I'm quite the coward but I've found other people disagree with me on that one. People seem to ask much less of themselves in terms of courage than I do.
I'm definitely not one of those INFPs who avoid confrontation at all cost. People have avoided me because I'm too confrontational. But there is no courage if there is no fear, and I don't fear confrontation so it's not courageous.
I think I'm quite the coward but I've found other people disagree with me on that one. People seem to ask much less of themselves in terms of courage than I do.
I'm definitely not one of those INFPs who avoid confrontation at all cost. People have avoided me because I'm too confrontational. But there is no courage if there is no fear, and I don't fear confrontation so it's not courageous.
I am, but I fake braveness very well, and my curiosity is even stronger than fear.
That's what being courageous is.....I am, but I fake braveness very well, and my curiosity is even stronger than fear.
He called me name, but I saw no-one there when I looked...@Rainbow was a troll, threads like these dont deserve any attention or to be resurrected.
So how will I know if he really loves me?
So this thread actually reminded me of Diana Wynne Jones' book Howl's Moving Castle (I know, cheesy because it's my profile picture). But in an interview with her, she was asked:
"Why do you think Howl has to trick himself into being brave? Or that so many characters are almost unwilllingly-or unknowingly-brave"
"Everyone has to trick him/herself into doing what they think is against their nature. Think of the many times you have promised yourself a treat of some kind once you have done a chore you hate. This is the most normal way of tricking yourself. But how many times have you sauntered over to the jar of cookies, telling yourself that you are not really going to eat one? this is another way of tricking yourself. Howl is an extreme case of this because he has convinced himself he is a terrible coward. The fact is that he is quite brave in some directions and only frightened when he is face to face with someone whose powers are equal to his own. He has to trick himself into dealing with them."
Just thought I'd add that...I think a lot of us go on "thinking" we're cowards, but when we actually come face to face with the situation that's when our true bravery shows, whether or not we acted brave up to that point.
"Why do you think Howl has to trick himself into being brave? Or that so many characters are almost unwilllingly-or unknowingly-brave"
"Everyone has to trick him/herself into doing what they think is against their nature. Think of the many times you have promised yourself a treat of some kind once you have done a chore you hate. This is the most normal way of tricking yourself. But how many times have you sauntered over to the jar of cookies, telling yourself that you are not really going to eat one? this is another way of tricking yourself. Howl is an extreme case of this because he has convinced himself he is a terrible coward. The fact is that he is quite brave in some directions and only frightened when he is face to face with someone whose powers are equal to his own. He has to trick himself into dealing with them."
Just thought I'd add that...I think a lot of us go on "thinking" we're cowards, but when we actually come face to face with the situation that's when our true bravery shows, whether or not we acted brave up to that point.
Maybe you'd just like t'come over here and say that! I mean... we could settle it over a nice cup of tea...This just came to mind, I don't know why.
But I think they seem like cowards. Maybe just to outsiders, though.
What do you think?
whatcha gonna do to meh?Maybe you'd just like t'come over here and say that! I mean... we could settle it over a nice cup of tea...
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