This is a question that has stemmed from a number of different places, and I believe Excido may have started a thread on this a while ago. However, this bears asking again;
Are INTJs naturally inclined to be thrifty?
I've taken a good hard look at my income and spending pattern before and since becoming involved in a relationship. During the before period, I made less, had fewer things and spent a good deal of my income on maintaining an LDR. I also managed to save. A LOT. I could pay for international flights (not all for me), assist family when it was required, and led what I felt was a comfortable life.
Now that I am married, I find that even though I make about twice what I used to, there is a lot less saving going on. Due to a joint account, things are constantly spent on things I just don't see the need for, and even things that are obvious, like socializing, take a lot out of us financially, without the obvious draining effect on me. Costs develop from things that could have been avoided with a little planning and sacrifice, and there are requests for all sorts of items, that given the nature of our finances, I can't very well refuse. Also, I seem to be getting a lot of gifts, even though I've flatly stated from the beginning that I don't want material goods.
I'll not deny that a few of the things that have been purchased were worth the investment (a computer and internet access as a couple), but given what I'm making, I shake my head when I look at what gets saved each fortnight. I'm just wondering if other INTJs find that their finances improve when left alone in their natural state? I've spoken with a few people, and the evidence seems to be good, but also one or two cases where INTJs spend money at the drop of a hat.
Please feel free to share your experiences.
Are INTJs naturally inclined to be thrifty?
I've taken a good hard look at my income and spending pattern before and since becoming involved in a relationship. During the before period, I made less, had fewer things and spent a good deal of my income on maintaining an LDR. I also managed to save. A LOT. I could pay for international flights (not all for me), assist family when it was required, and led what I felt was a comfortable life.
Now that I am married, I find that even though I make about twice what I used to, there is a lot less saving going on. Due to a joint account, things are constantly spent on things I just don't see the need for, and even things that are obvious, like socializing, take a lot out of us financially, without the obvious draining effect on me. Costs develop from things that could have been avoided with a little planning and sacrifice, and there are requests for all sorts of items, that given the nature of our finances, I can't very well refuse. Also, I seem to be getting a lot of gifts, even though I've flatly stated from the beginning that I don't want material goods.
I'll not deny that a few of the things that have been purchased were worth the investment (a computer and internet access as a couple), but given what I'm making, I shake my head when I look at what gets saved each fortnight. I'm just wondering if other INTJs find that their finances improve when left alone in their natural state? I've spoken with a few people, and the evidence seems to be good, but also one or two cases where INTJs spend money at the drop of a hat.
Please feel free to share your experiences.
I go through a pack a day, and I used to smoke a pack a day too. And drinks. I go to bars and clubs at least 3-4 times a week.
