[Thrifty Walrus]

considering our fairly minimalistic needs, or would our imagination get the better of us (i.e. we would get paranoid the other was cheating or something)?

Of course I am just generalizing that all INTP's don't have many needs by the way.

 

[Icotic]

Perhaps I'm not qualified to answer, as I've never wanted to be in a relationship (I'll consider if I ever meet someone who can shut up for more than just a few seconds), but I can see nothing but advantages here. Personal space intact, and you have someone far, far away reminding you how great you are.

 

[Socrates]

It's definitely seriously hard, don't get me wrong, but being in one, I can definitely say things are going rather smoothly.

 

[Molock]

To be honest, I wouldn't be able to do it... It's true that I don't have many needs but long distance relationships just sound like torture to me.

 

[Socrates]

To be honest, I wouldn't be able to do it... It's true that I don't have many needs but long distance relationships just sound like torture to me.

Torture it most definitely is. :bored:

 

[SlowPoke68]

Really didn't work out for me in college. I tested as borderline I/E at the time. So did my gf.

Let's just say that a student trip to Italy really seemed to bring out the E in her. A lot. In the dorm room. Under bridges. In the backs of buses. With other students. With various guys named "Gianni". You name it. I got to hear all about it, too.

I think it taught me not to do the long distance relationship thing. . . at least not while expecting anything like . . . you know . . . exclusivity.

 

[Thrifty Walrus]

Really didn't work out for me in college. I tested as borderline I/E at the time. So did my gf.

Let's just say that a student trip to Italy really seemed to bring out the E in her. A lot. In the dorm room. Under bridges. In the backs of buses. With other students. With various guys named "Gianni". You name it. I got to hear all about it, too.

I think it taught me not to do the long distance relationship thing. . . at least not while expecting anything like . . . you know . . . exclusivity.

lol (10characters)

 

[Just_Some_Guy]

When I was a younger man, "long distance relationship" only meant for me that I could have two girlfriends. :sad:

I think it comes down to your relationship with your feelings (which are far more spelled out in the Enneagram than MBTI). I would encourage you to very seriously look into yours and into that of those of your partner. It could end poorly either way.

 

[awfulwafflewalker]

No. I find it to be a waste of time. I also wouldn't want to have to spend money to fly and meet some one or drive forever. I also don't think I'd trust myself with out having the person near me.

 

[AirMarionette]

Not really something I'd go for, for the basic reasons mentioned and coveting physical company.

 

[Radiant Flux]

I would probably forget to call them or what ever, resulting in them thinking I'd want to break up. I would say, yes, for the minamalistic needs thing, but no becuase of our lack of reality.

 

[chilidog]

I've done one once, and never again. I thought it would be easy, but it was rather difficult for me. I guess because it happened during the honeymoon, when you can't get enough of each other, and it was so awesome to finally find somebody that I could relate to. Those were probably the hardest 5 months of my life that I've had to endure, but I did make it out alive, and we've been together 3 years (now married).

 

[darksoul]

the last time i was in a long-distance relationship, i didn't even last six months.

 

[RiverINXP]

I couldn't do it because I suck at staying in touch with people. Ask my best friend - I haven't emailed her in nearly a year!

Aside from that, a relationship with some distance sounds pretty good to me.

 

[Valdyr]

They certainly don't work for me. For me, part of the appeal of romantic relationships is that the person is different from myself; someone with whom I can go out and enjoy experiences with which I probably wouldn't have done on my own. Having that physical presence balances out my intellectual nature.

This is just me though.

 

[sarek]

I am in a long distance relationship. I live in the Netherlands and she in London. We try to get together as much as possible but its tough, really tough, both because of the distance and financial consequences but also because rather bad health. Its made even harder because of the intensity of our feelings. Our love is almost existential in nature.

Of course we are dreaming about a future together but we are both aware that there are a lot of obstacles in the way.

It is tough, damn tough. But its also so rewarding and I do not believe i could have found a girl like this anywhere else. So its a price i will have to pay.

As for the out of sight out of mind effect, that has never been a problem. We find it excruciating to even go half a day without some kind of contact.

 

[darksoul]

I couldn't do it because I suck at staying in touch with people. Ask my best friend - I haven't emailed her in nearly a year!

hahhahaha i'm the same :crazy:

 

[Foxwell]

God no, the build up of pressure would make me explode.

 

[Arusnem]

I think some INTPs can be good at maintaining a long distance relationship without event being at a long distance.

 

[CrabHammer]

I don't even do a good job maintaining long distance friendships, let alone romantic relationships. I get very inertial and stuck where I am in most places. If my SO isn't there, I may forget about them from time to time. Maybe I just haven't felt strongly enough for someone to want to maintain the relationship I guess.