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Do you think that INTxs types are more inclined than others to be asexual?

With the term "Asexual" I refer to people who aren't keen (or even not interested at all!) on having sex. They can love, indeed, and they get fond of people. But, even if they do, they don't considerate having sex as an essential part of their romantic life. They desire caressing and cuddling the partner, kisses, romantic behaviours, tenderness instead. We can say theirs is a sort of "platonic" and very romantic relationship, a sort of deeper development of a true friendship, adding a slight physical attraction.
Some of them may be interested in having fun in the bed in other ways (like "bondage" or slight BDSM practices, especially role playing).

 

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well im an intj and i dont know if this is too much information but it might be some help: certain things do turn me on but once the focus goes to the genitals im just grossed out and not really interested. i also havent been seriously aroused in a long time and im generally very picky about porn
 

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I think I'm quite asexual. I have never really watched a porn or felt horny at just the idea. I just looked for some information about sexuality when I was in my teen years. I don't feel like trying at all costs. My imagination always drives to tenderness and cuddling a potential partner, I feel happy at the thought while I'm indifferent at the idea of having sex. When I look at a guy the first thing I look is his manners and his face, rarely the body itself.
 

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I'm not at all asexual, but I believe the frequency of asexuals among the INxx types is somewhat high. I recall reading on Tumblr (so take it with a grain of salt!) that a survey showed INFJs have the highest frequency of asexuals, followed by INTJs.
 

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Personally I think sexuality has more to do with biology than psychology.

That said, I'm on the gray-a spectrum somewhere in the realm of demisexual.

I experience sexual attraction and desire in certain situations, but I don't generally have a lot of interest in acting on it. It's more about the anticipation and the chase than the act for me. Once I actually have sex with someone a couple of times I lose all desire to continue doing so. It becomes about as interesting to me as watching paint dry.
 

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To be frank, I have a bit of a hard time believing most people that tell me that they are asexual. I have found that thus far, people who proclaim to be asexual are or have suffered extreme trauma/PTSD and aren't at all healthy enough to differentiate between sexual desire and a genuine disinterest in sexual activity and the inability to have sexual feelings towards other individuals regardless of gender. A lot of emotionally unavailable individuals will also use this excuse. There is no self-awareness about what their deep rooted issues are that result in a lack of sexual desire. I am not saying this is you, but I have seen this before and it is a little annoying to watch. Especially if you have started puberty.

I am not an asexual. I am sexually attracted to my opposite gender, women. I have sex, and enjoy having sex. Depending on stress levels, my environment etc. I go through periods when I have no interest in sex. I have gone months without having sex in romantic relationships. I don't know if there is a correlation between INXX's and having a low libido. I think that if you genuinely have no desire to have sex, do not experience a sexual attraction to any gender, aren't motivated by sex in any way shape or form, have no interest in sexual activity etc. then you may be asexual. If you are disgusted by sex, disgusted by the idea of sex with any gender, fear relationships specifically in the realm of sexual activity, and show obvious signs of trauma, you are not asexual. You need to seek some form of cognitive therapy. I mean that in the nicest way.
 

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Don't know that this is type specific. I would have to say I have a very healthy sexual relationship with my wife, and certainly have never experienced a lack of desire for sex.
 

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I was asexual to a degree until I had sex.
Im an intj, so, I may be breaking that generalization.
 

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I have an extremely low libido.
 
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I would not at all consider myself asexual. I usually only feel a strong sexual attraction to people with whom I am emotionally connected in some way (this can include a long-term partner or simply a friend with benefits, as long as the connection is there). Since emotional connection is hard for me to find with others, I don't often feel that urge. And honestly, it's a lot easier to take care of myself anyway. ;P
 

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This other INTJ I know is very similar.
He simply forgoes sex, because he is waiting for his dream woman. And anything less than that will not do.
Going on 30 and still hasn't bothered. It is pointless to him.

I live and breathe primal urges as far back as I can remember... I can't imagine being any different.
You INTxs can be so self-sufficient. True masters of your own domain.
 

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I have never wanted to have sex with any individual, but I doubt I'm asexual. When I compare myself to other people my age I feel like I'm asexual, but true asexual people are not common and I wouldn't feel comfortable claiming that I am one. Maybe I have weaker drives than other people my age, or maybe I'm too interested in academics to think about sex, or perhaps both. I'm what people my age refer to as a "loser" I suppose, but I don't care. Sex just isn't as important to me as it is to some people.
 

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No.

However, I think that INTJs and INTPs are disinterested in sex with anyone that they have no intellectual or emotional connection with. A person has to mean something to us and prove that they are an intellectual match before we are interested in them sexually. I think this is true to an extent with all NTs. Consequently, we are likely to have less partners than other types--SPs for example, who are more interested in living in the present moment and more open to new experiences.
 

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Not asexual.

*wonders how many times this has been asked and answered*

I am demisexual though.
 

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Do you think that INTxs types are more inclined than others to be asexual?

With the term "Asexual" I refer to people who aren't keen (or even not interested at all!) on having sex. They can love, indeed, and they get fond of people. But, even if they do, they don't considerate having sex as an essential part of their romantic life. They desire caressing and cuddling the partner, kisses, romantic behaviours, tenderness instead. We can say theirs is a sort of "platonic" and very romantic relationship, a sort of deeper development of a true friendship, adding a slight physical attraction.
Some of them may be interested in having fun in the bed in other ways (like "bondage" or slight BDSM practices, especially role playing).


You should have mada a poll: sexual INTP, sexual INTJ, asexual INTJ and asexual INTP as options

And yes, I am asexual.
 
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