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Hello, just curious about this. I'd really appreciate if you would take your time to answer these questions, you can also include your own scenarios.

Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?

You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?

You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?
 

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Entering a classroom full of people I don't know isn't something I'm afraid of. Sometimes I almost prefer it because that way there won't be people I know who will have expectations of me that I probably won't fulfill. I'd probably sit on one of the outer rows halfway back. I wouldn't initiate conversation with anyone but instead scope them out with Se. If someone talks to me, I'll answer them directly without acting meek. If I'm interested, I'll extrapolate the conversation. If not, I'll end it quickly.

At my friends house, I would easily interact with them. Mainly because if I know someone well enough to go to their house, I'm probably pretty open with them. If I were going to be shy there, it'd mean I wasn't comfortable and would probably decline their invitation to visit in order to avoid it entirely.

For the last one, I assume you mean the sex we're attracted to, yes? This one is tough for me because I can't picture it actually happening. If it did, I would probably act the most shy in this situation when compared with the two above. I'd also probably regret this one the most and when I got away from the situation, I'd constantly be rethinking my actions and how I could have changed them and what would happen if I did.
 

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In a classroom full of strangers, I would most likely sit at the back or the front, on one of the sides (whichever one is closest to the door). I'd stick to myself, reading a book or just thinking, unless somebody tried to engage me in conversation. If I heard a group of people talking about a subject I have an interest in, I MIGHT join in, but probably not. In this whole classroom situation I would feel like I had just gained 50 pounds and lost all grasp on any sort of coolness I might have had. I would probably trip if I tried to walk around, or I'd drop my pen/pencil.

I might interact easily with my friend (depends on the friend), but if it was my first time at their house, I'd probably be really shy, especially around their parents. I'm an ovo-lacto vegetarian, and many of my friend's parents have freaked out over what to feed me, and they don't seem to be reassured by me saying I'm good with a peanut butter sandwich.

As for the third situation, this happens to me all the time at work. There's this one girl I've had a crush on since she started, and she comes up and talks to me all the time (when she's not being quiet, she is a huge people person, but it's when she thinks nobody is watching that I find her the most attractive), and I never know what to say. Like RyRy, I'm the most shy in this situation, and I always think of what to say about 3 hours after the fact.
 

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Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?

I'm always late for every class i've ever attended, so whichever seat I have left. Right after that i'll scope out the room for 30 minutes trying to find every cute girl I have in my class. The next 10 minutes are used for a strategy on which girl I will end up talking to, and how i'll talk to her. The last 10 minutes I finally pay attention in class to the teacher. Class gets out and I make my move on whichever girl was my main target when were leaving the classroom.

Next day, sit next to her, and start meeting everyone around me. By the end of the week i'll have at least 6 good buddies, and a girl i'm talking to. (I'm so damn distracted in every college class i've ever had because I can't stop thinking about girls)



You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?

As soon as I go to his house, i'll act courteous and have manners with his/her parents so they can like me. Right after I have made that bond with the parents, i'll make my self at home. Eat out of their fridge , or hog their computer/ TV. Friend and I crack a ton of jokes, and talk about trivial stuff. So everything comes in easily... Except if there's people I don't know in the room, then i'll act a little guarded at first and try to act cool.



You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?

Smile, involve myself in the conversation. Always end the talk with "Hey, so do you guys party a lot? We should all hang out sometime... What's your numbers?" :laughing:


I'm pretty shy though, for me doing the approaching. I most likely won't do it if it's not in a classroom, sport, club... so weird.
 

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Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?
I don't talk to other people unless they approach me first.

You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?
Depends on how close that friend is, if that friend's really close we'll do all sorts of crazy things.

You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?
I'll be cool and talk to them as I would anyone else. I don't easily get infatuated.
 

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Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?
I'm not shy in a classroom, but I am on the quiet side. I have talked to a few people first, but I usually wait until they approach me.

You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?
If it's a friends house I interact very easily with them.

You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?
It really depends on what the guy looks like. I would be a little shy if he was extremelllllly good looking and seemed cool/nice (not a deuche). I'm really weird/different though, I don't find too many guys extremely good looking, which is why I probably imagine myself acting shy. Don't get me wrong, there are good looking guys, but i'm talking about extremellllly good looking as in how most other people describe people like Brad Pitt, George Clooney, Zac Efron.. so on (eww). Growing up all my friends always had crushes on famous people and guys in our grade, but I never once saw what they saw. I usually loved famous people for other reasons. Their music for example. I had the biggest crush on Billy Corgan growing up. Most of my friends thought I was gross for being sooo in love with him. Extremely good looking isn't even important to me though so I don't know why I would be shy. haha, i'm just confusing myself on if I would be shy or not now. Does that ever happen to other ISFP's??
 

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Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?
I'd usually wait for others to talk to me, unless I had a specific question I wanted to ask someone, then I would talk to them first.

You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?
If it's a friend, then I would be comfortable there and interact easily. I'd just make myself at home when it's a close friend.

You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?
I'd be flattered and turn on the charm! I'd smile, be friendly, bubbly. When a guy is confident enough to approach me, I feed off of his confidence.
 

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I think I am not shy, just can't be asked to talk to people I don't know.
Especially if I am new to an environment, I am always on guard
Though if I am in the right mood (which is very rare), I am quite talkative and can make friends on the spot.
But I will only consider those friends as people I know later if I or they don't make effort to keep the friendship.
It's just really depends on whether or not I want to make an effort, though I know it's always my subconcious that's holding me back all the time.
That's why I want to study MBTI and know myself better so I can control my subconcious better
 

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Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?
I would stay quiet and reserved. I have no interest in getting to know new people.

You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?
I would interact easily. I can become very talkative, even seem hyper in speech.

You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?
I would stay friendly. Whatever that means. Usually with my eyebrows raised. It's an instant mask-switch if I'm unaware of them coming up to me.


As a rule of thumb I don't want to get new people into
my life, but if they enter my space then I wouldn't shove
them off either, I would just have to welcome them.
 

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I'll try to answer from my ISFP best friend's usual perspectives

Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?


He will probably be quiet and reserved, but not necessarily shy. He just chooses to lie low a little unless there are people he feels comfortable with.

You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?

Nope, he will interact easily, warmly with friends. He's easy going and laid back with them.

You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?

It depends. I think he'll just talk politely at first.
 

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Hello, just curious about this. I'd really appreciate if you would take your time to answer these questions, you can also include your own scenarios.

]Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?
If I'm just sitting in a room full of strangers, that doesnt bother me at all. I will look around scope things out though. If someone talks to me I'll probably be shy, but try and talk.

You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?
Well, with my close friends I'm actually pretty loud and silly, but I still get shy moments around them. Any time I feel like the spotlight is on me a little too much, I get all shy and my cheeks turn bright red.

You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?
Well, I've never had a boyfriend before, so having a guy come up to me and talk to me would make me shy. However, I tend to assume that guys just don't like me, so sometimes I can act really normal around guys because I don't ever expect them to be looking at me in a romantic way.
To answer the main question: Yes, I'm shy. (But I don't have low self esteem. I've gotten rid of a lot of my insecurities and yet I'm still a shy person. I think its kind of sweet and I don't really want to change that about myself. I've been shy since I was little and I think its somewhat natural.)
 

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Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?
At school I'm extremely quiet... when people that I don't know speak to me, I'm always kinda awkward. :p

You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?
Noo, not at all! The friends I'm all really close to, so I am completely myself around them. I'm pretty loud and crazy...

You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?
I'd be flattered! I'm usually not the one to start a conversation unless I feel somewhat comfortable with the person, so when someone does come up to me themselves, it makes me really happy inside and I generally see an oppurtunity at friendship. =) With all guys, though, I become shy automatically and words just don't come out right. Especially if it's a really attractive guy... But hopefully they can see past my ineloquency! If I do become closer with the guy, then I feel a lot less awkward and I can be myself around them. So far, though, none of the guys I've ever met have been willing to take that extra step. :p
 

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Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?

I would probably be sat down, looking around, or listening for a person who looks like they are approachable, or if I am being lazy, just sit.

You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?

Easy peasy, lemon squeezy.

You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?

It depends what they are on about, but I will talk back.
 

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1. Let's say you're in a classroom full of people you don't know, how would you react?

-I would probably just find a comfortable seat at the back of the class, where I could breathe and feel comfortable, Put one of my headphones in (making sure that my instructor doesn't notice of course) and tune out. :crazy:

If the teacher was giving a lecture, then there wouldn't be much that I could do to extrovert myself to the other classmates, personally... If a topic grabs hold of my elusive attention, I may participate, if called upon or should I have something constructive, to add.

2. You go to a friend's house, are you shy or do you interact easily with your friend in there?

-Usually, yes. Depends on our moods and states of mind. He can be a grumpy Gus sometimes... and I'd be lying if I said I never was. :blushed:

3. You're minding your own business at a public place and [ladies for guys, guys for ladies] come up to you to talk to you, what do you do?

-I'd probably get a little over-whelmed but depending on the influences I was under... Heck yeah, I'm a very friendly person and I love having meaningful conversations with someone interesting. I'm just usually "too nice" for most women to really get attracted to. :unsure:

I don't mind this however, because that automatically tells me, that they weren't the right girl for me anyways. The girl who accepts me, as I am(and actually cared enough to find out, who that person was) would ideally, be somebody that I would want to be with.

Life is just simpler for me when I'm single. Though... It can get very lonely too. :mellow:
 
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