I do have SJ and SP friends (more like acquaintances), but nothing ever goes in depth. I don't feel connected to them in any way nor do I feel obligated to help them with their troubles if they ever face any. There are many reasons behind why I don't get along with them and it revolves around interests mainly talking about other people (girls) which I have no desire to engage conversation with. Regarding some SJs and SPs, I don't understand the need for making comments about girls who pass by. To me, it seems like some insecurity built in the person about what is beautiful and what is not. If they were to insult or compliment people on how they look, I'd do the same for them except steamroll them on their insecurities and intelligence, but I don't.
I find mature SPs and SJs much more sociable once they get married because they learn what is responsibility for themselves and others. Unfortunately, just yesterday I had to bear a conversation with a STP (likely ESTP), who mentioned he needs to get on with his life and saying he's 30 and is married. As our group conversation continued superficially, he just looked around and stared at girls (albiet just fat assed girls). The worst part for me was to endure his dumbass remark, "Damn, the girls on this campus are..."(something along the lines of hot, fuckable). I immediately brainstormed, "Didn't he just say he was married?", and I thought he was just all about responsibility, commitment, and their ever improving inner persona. I know that in times of crisis, this person would not be dependable. The funny thing is, he wants to be a teacher and I hope by the time he becomes a role model, he picks up his life. I think at the age of 30, he is either just putting up a fake front to my college peers, or bullshitting his masculinity front. I do hope its the former, otherwise I'd project him to be a horrible and irresponsible teacher that I wouldn't be afraid to rat out of the system before he traumatizes his students.
Most my friends are either NFs or NTs. Although NTs have a fair share of bad things such as their cold blooded tendencies and brain competition, I understand them. I learned to look past the inner insecurity of the NTs (their ego and false sense of unique intelligence). It is not that NTs are "smart" but that they can solve problems and come up with conclusions. When we converse, I feel that I am actually learning something and getting somewhere whereas with SJs and SPs, I just feel like I am there to validate their existence.
NFs are awesome because they make me (an NT) feel as if I am human again, not a robot. I don't feel as if there is competition like talking to an NT who automatically assumes I am there to become smarter than they are. We still understand each other because my Fe is very close to my Ne, almost equal. I don't mind using my Fe to lead my mental state for a short while. At work, I hate NTs because they are my competitors. Unfortunately, if we work together, we can synergize but their competitive minds just think if they don't eliminate me, I'd eliminate them.
