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Are people suspicious of ENFPs?

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I don't know many ENFPs and only one that I've known a few years and I've got fairly close to (platonically, not romantically) this last year.

I feel like he's a more enthusiastic, more affectionate, bouncy version of myself. I don't need to think about where he's coming from. I guess he feels the same since he's the first person to drop a comment that stopped me in my tracks, with the realisation of 'Wow, he knows my underlying motives! Cool! Also, how annoying!' :laughing:

Anyway, I know I'm often misunderstood, but he seems to be misunderstood to a greater extent than I am. People are really suspicious of his motives and intentions. His reputation is that he's immoral and can't be trusted. I've fell out with half my family defending him because they've heard rumours about him and refuse to put them aside until they find out for themself. No matter how much he proves himself, people seem to play down his good deeds, yet jump on every single fk up he makes (he does fk up a lot, but his heart's in the right place) as proof that they were right all along.
One family member even said he's "too nice"! Wtf? Like it's a mask hiding his evil intentions. Yet, when he refuses to kiss ass and tells them some home truths, they hate him even more for that.

I'm very accurate with my judgements of people anyway and I'm totally convinced he's a genuine decent person. Often when he makes mistakes it seems to be because he's trying to please too many people.

Does this happen to ENFPs often?

If so, are people suspicious of your motives just because they can't imagine being kind without gaining something from it?

Or are there other reasons for this?
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Nope, i've never been told i'm not trustworthy. Its actually the complete opposite, people tell me things i don't care about, nor want to hear to the point i have to say, please, don't share, i'm not interested in knowing all that personal information.

Suspicious, i can relate with that word. I'm very suspicious of other people, always. I don't trust people who give me bad vibes, or who seem offish. I've never had anyone say they are suspicious of me, although because i'm not open about myself personally, this could lead them in believing i have something to hide. No, my life is non of your business and i won't give you the information you would so love to know. I can see why people would think that though, because sometimes when i don't know enough about a person i could become suspicious of them too. Overall i can't say with any of the ENFP i know, and i do know a few, including myself that anyone is suspicious.

Now curious, yes, people are always curious of me/ENFP friends. Maybe they're confusing the word suspicious with curious, because the ENFP i know are like myself, we keep our lives private, not like some ENFP who like to reveal everything about who they are on the same night, nope, not acceptable. So it comes down to the individual, not the type.
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