So,you remember best those things that trigger an emotional response?Shelby67,
As an INFP I can affirm that, yes, I am forgetful. Why? Because my personality traits lend to that particular trait. I will explain how:
Introvert: The information and all other input becomes internalized
Intuitive: Multiple possibilities are generated from the input, and the mind filters out whatever lacks in intrigue. This means that mundane details like times, names, etc, slip through because they *usually* do not fit the profile of input that is normally focussed upon.
Feeling: As the input is received into the mind, the dominant feeling function calls the shots and determines which information should be filtered into the intuitive functioning system. Priority is given to information that corresponds to particular pet interests, fascinations, values, or elicits emotional response. Again, details do not often match these criteria. But sometimes details do match the criteria, like when there is an emotional investment or fascination associated with that detail. I am a germophobe, and my emotion of fear prioritizes this input into my intuitive system by causing me to take note of and remember all the things i have touched with my hands or that other people nearby have touched, and then intuitively generating the possibilities on how to avoid any germ sources from nearing my nose or mouth. In this I am NOT FORGETFUL! Why? Because my dominant feeling value system designated my mental resources to notice, remember, and consider this input. (Other similar examples could involve anything that the feeling system designates as important)
Perceiving: All of the aforementioned takes place in accordance with the Perceiving function. Input is taken in, filtered and designated by the feeling function, and all thought behavior that takes place with the intuitive function happens in accordance with the perceiving function. The perceiving function causes there to be an ever-expanding production of thoughts and possiblities that follows no particular order other than the direction the feeling function dictates. If the function were judging, the input is treated with the opposite - the information and possibilities are narrowed into one primary perception, or added into a tidy set of perceptions that are meticulously connected. This allows details to be more easily accessed because of this more organized arrangement, but with the perceiving function, details are strewn about in the mind, causing many of us INFPs to forget much of what we had been thinking about just a few minutes ago, unless it still holds application by way of the feeling function's dictation.
Let's say you have a good friend whom you enjoy hanging out with. After spending a few hours with him/her, what will you remember about your time together? Topics discussed? Gestures, facial expressions, tone of voice, dress, the weather? Or will you remember instead how he/she made you feel?