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Do you consider yourself to be boring*? For how long have you felt that way? Do you consider it to be an issue or are you fixated on it? Have you ever experienced it? In which circumstances? What do you think is/was the reason you feel/felt that way? If not, what makes you interesting, exciting or fascinating?

Please state, if you know, your Jungian type (whichever: MBTI, socionics, functional code...), enneatype (tritype appreciated), instinctual variant and if you struggle(d) with depression.

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*boring, not bored, even if there's a relationship between both
 

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I think so, mostly due to two reasons:
- being enneagram type 1: people comment that I am very reasonable but lack in spontaneity and emotion
- being inert (more introverted) subtype of jungian type: I can entertain myself indefinitely in my mind but that's not very entertaining to everyone else around me, also when I realize or discover something interesting often I don't have an impulse to share it or discuss it with anyone else (I read that Isaac Newton had the same kind of problem, after discovering calculus he didn't inform anyone of it, he happens to be my socionics type identical so I get where he was coming from with that sort of introvyrt insularity because i am the same way), so what ends up happening is that I am next to never bored myself, but others don't consider me particularly engaging or interesting either.
 

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Yes, and I like it that way.

For me, having an overly exciting life causes issues that I don't want to deal with. It might be different now that I'm older, but generally I've found that boring is good. It's secure, safe. I like predictable events and being able to plan for things in advance.

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Do you consider yourself to be boring*? For how long have you felt that way? Do you consider it to be an issue or are you fixated on it? Have you ever experienced it? In which circumstances? What do you think is/was the reason you feel/felt that way? If not, what makes you interesting, exciting or fascinating?

Please state, if you know, your Jungian type (whichever: MBTI, socionics, functional code...), enneatype (tritype appreciated), instinctual variant and if you struggle(d) with depression.

Thanks.

*boring, not bored, even if there's a relationship between both
No, I've called a lot of negative things but boring has never been one of them.
Yeah, sometimes I do get bored by I am fascinated by my mind; so, not often.
People don't consider me boring because I have a boundless curiosity and am interested in almost everything; plus, I like to wisecrack all the time.

I am a 5w4 INFJ.
 

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The poster above took the words out of my mouth, I've also been called alot of negative things. Though some were intended as compliments, like "weird" or "crazy" but never boring.

Here's the thing though, my life might be "boring" because I don't do alot of glamorous things, so for a while I did believe I was boring.

I had a friend a while ago, he was a cool intelligent guy. One day we were talking and I said "I just feel so boring." He laughed uncontrollably for probably a good few minutes, then told me that I may be alot of things, but never boring. I didn't really know what to make of the laughing but I decided to take as a compliment and haven't questioned it since. I suppose it took that reaction for me to fully believe it, because otherwise I may have seen it as polite.

My type is INFP and 6w7, 649 tri-type sp/sx stacking. I've had mild depression before, and might have a lingering mild depression.

Edited to add what makes me interesting since that was part of your question:
I'm not good at questions like this, because it makes me feel arrogant when I point out good things about me lol. Anyway, I'm pretty bright and alert. I have a variety of interests. I have a silly humor and can't control my laughter sometimes, I'm usually the first to laugh at a joke and sometimes the only one. I have a good smile, I think that interests people, when I laugh I know my face is at it's best so people enjoy that. Which isn't a quality but I think that's why people like to make others laugh, because of how their faces light up. That's why I like to make others laugh I suppose. I'm random and I'm really good at telling stories, my husband usually has me tell a story instead of him because he thinks I say it better :p. I am prone to random outbursts of song and dance, and I say dumb puns because I am amused by them, I say goofy phrases and use obnoxious accents that don't actually exist. However, I can have a heart to heart talk with you or even an intellectual talk. Though I do use humor to lighten the mood if the topic is heavy if it's appropriate. I am skilled at working a one on one convo to get people to open up and relax because I am trustworthy as well as engaging. Though that's usually after I warm up to a situation. New situations trigger my shyness. Well that was longer than I expected but there's an image of me I suppose.
 

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I would definitely say that I'd be boring to people who like to do and converse constantly. I wouldn't make a reality show star very easily. However, I don't consider myself boring because I have a diverse interest and curiosity base that pretty much makes me feel like I always have something to ponder or dote over.

MBTI: INFJ (probably closer to INTJ if you went with stereotypes)
Socionics: Pretty much closed-case IEI-Ni
Enneagram: Pretty much stereotypical 5w4 sp/so/sx (see why I look boring? )
 

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I think I must come across as boring to some people because I'm pretty introverted except with close friends, or certain people who I for some reason feel comfortable around. As well as that I can be intensely private, I dislike talking about myself especially to new people and I can be very reserved and 'clam up'.

This is probably boring for other people as it probably makes me hard work to talk to. I'm not exactly walking around entertaining people.

But I don't really think my thoughts, interests etc are particularly boring. I like new experiences, I love all kinds of books, music and films. I love different sports, adventure, learning about people, imagining things. Well not all the time, sometimes I'm just thinking of boring stuff like what I next want to eat :p

Generally though the more 'interesting' side of myself is hidden from view, except to a select few. I kinda wish I wasn't that way sometimes!

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Yuuuup. For about 3 years. It is an issue when you want to connect with people, buut can't really care for regular people anyway. I have no life and don't ever do anything and am not interested in doing anything. I'm a natural homebody and the thought of going anywhere except for walks bores/demotivates me. It's too much trouble. I'm doing just fine at home in my own little eccentric world.

ISFJ Sp/Sx 6w5. Yeah, I'm frequently depressed but that's nihilism for you. wtf are we doin
 

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I guess it's fair to answer my own questions.

I cannot remember a time when people called me boring but I don't think I've been described by others in a particular way anyway.

I feel boring. I am unexperienced (which is not a synonym but clearly a factor). I also feel I lack passion. I feel pretty ordinary or average, even conventional. I'm also stuck in my comfort zone. Of course I want to feel exciting, fascinating, interesting, different, complex and eccentric. When I complain about it with friends, they of course tell me I'm not. Complaining is useless, I have the power to spice up my life. I guess having low self-esteem and depression are good explanations. It feels unnatural, because it's just a reaction, when I say my curiosity is endless, that I'm vividly imaginative, that my mind is fascinating or some other thing like that. I guess I have a tendency to sell me short. Now, while posting this, I'm not brooding about it but it comes and goes. There are moments when I really feel worthless.

My type is in my signature. My Jungian type (specially N vs S) is a mistery and, to be honest, partly because of this issue. I know it has nothing to do but I tend to idealize things too much that I'm unable to relate to them and I am so aware of this fixation that I also don't want to deduce anything from it and use it as a cheap trick to deceive myself, letting me pretend to be what, genuinely but pathetically, I don't know if I'm objectively not (I don't know if I don't know for the same reasons). I feel like I'm barely making sense.

Thanks for the answers so far.
 

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Spontaneity is key, friends. If you have any ideas, put it to action. Say it or do it. Boringness gone. Besides the life-threatening actions, anything is fair game. Do some pranks, make horrible jokes, etc.
 

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I think I am kind of a boring person, yes.

I spend 90% of my time on the computer, which keeps me entertained, but I'll imagine what it would be like to read a book where I was the main character, and it sounds painfully bland. It's not like my internal monologues are very interesting either. They are pretty whiny and repetitive. While my daydreams... Well, depending on the person, they might seem disturbing or they might seem tame or silly (but I guess I wouldn't mind reading a book about those).

No depression, though.

-Some SFJ 6w7 probably.
 

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Not even close. I can be pretty weird, so it keeps people on their toes.

ENTJ
3w4-5w6-8w7
Sx/So

I have not struggled with depression, but I have felt feelings of hopelessness and just wanted to be done with my life. Not in a sense that I wanted to kill myself, but that I just wanted to jump forward several years when none of my current problems mattered.
 
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