Are you ISTPs good with kids?

Not an istp, nor am I looking forward to ages 2-5 for my first when they are born.

"you're too good with kids to not have kids"

-mom

Miss Basura said:

Just want to preface this by saying I am not an ISTP and I'm not having a baby (with an ISTP or anyone else). I was just curious: how are you ISTPs with kids? I could see some of them being good with kids.

I know someone will say this but yes, I'm aware that all ISTPs are different, yadda yadda. Just wondering personal experiences: how well you get along with children, are you a parent, etc.

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Personally?
Parent? Yes.
Good w kids even before? Yes.

I was the teen/young adult that all the little kids hung on and around at times.
Swing tornado pusher/horse_tiger_shark- person thing/tag/spooky hide and go seek and etc.

I swing wildly between that kid you don't want your kids to hang out with because I'll teach them how to prank you and that adult you want your kids to hang out with because they come back better than they left.

Growing up misunderstood makes it so I tend to be able to reach kids where they live and want to understand and give understanding when needed.
I remember still what it felt like to be misunderstood for so long and still am going through this today.
Some teens feel misunderstood when in fact they are not misunderstood they are simply dealing with people who don't remember what it was like to be them. Others are literally misunderstood categorically by those who are meant to protect and guide them. I have dealt with both personally and can speak to a lot of the situations that I hear from kids.

On top of which I have an autistic son who required me to stretch myself more than I was used to before him. None of which has been any kind of burden to me because I wanted to understand and I didn't expect things to be any whatever way because I knew I was dealing with an unknown for me.

Helping people understand me has been my way of dealing with conflict (when possible) and turned outward as my way of helping people feel understood.

I think these ways may be at the core of being good w kids for me but I don't know 100%.
I haven't given it a lot of thought so I can't nail it down too well just now.




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I love anyone from age 2-10. I get along okay with pre-teens, but that's just because I'm a highschooler and they think I'm cool. This will not last. Especially as I'm not cool. I do a lot of VBS/AWANAs/other kid program work at church and make friends with all the little ones I meet.

I'm the kind of person who prefers children to adults. The things they say, the way they act ... it's adorable and amusing and intriguing. Also, less judgement. They accept you for who you are, even if you are a little awkward (maybe because they don't notice, but oh well). That said, I'm not gonna let them run all over me and act like little hellions; they have to behave or I'm gonna deal with them. So no putting hand-fulls of charcoal on my nice new shirt. (I speak from experience ...)

I'm not a parent and won't be any time soon, but I see myself having 10+ kids (although that's just me, not ISTPs, I'm sure). It's gonna be great. Probably a little crazy. I feel like I can totally handle it, though. I have four nieces and two nephews ... so that's kind of like having kids ... without any of the responsibility or pain ... although I secretly think I'm more responsible than their parents ... (DON'T LISTEN TO ME BEING CONCEITED.) (THOUGH I AM.)

I'd say naturally, I'm quite average with kids in the family but personally I don't like them and I never want them.

I don't particularly like kids (I don't dislike them either, I just don't feel strongly about them), but they seem to adore me for some reason.
I'm good at looking after them because they usually listen to what I say and don't cause troubles.

I don't know about being a parent, I don't feel like having kids in the near future, but that's because I have a crippling fear of miscarriage and I don't think I'll ever be able to be a mother until I work on that in some way.

I'm good at playing with kids, I'm no good at disciplining them. I've tutored and babysat a handful of kids aged 4-9 and most of them really liked me. Their parents also liked me but then I feel like I didn't actually teach the kids anything... mostly I just kept them busy with stories and games while the parents ran errands or took a nap? But then maybe that was more the point.

I'm sort of infamous in my family for calling children "disease caring rodents", for some reason my mom finds this hilarious. In spite of this, one of my close female friends told me that I would be a great dad; which was probably the most obvious hint I've ever missed. They aren't so bad once they're over about 10 and can sort of take care of themselves. Also nothing ruins a trip to a museum quite like a field trip. Needless to say I'm not planing on having any kids.

Miss Basura said:

Just want to preface this by saying I am not an ISTP and I'm not having a baby (with an ISTP or anyone else). I was just curious: how are you ISTPs with kids? I could see some of them being good with kids.

I know someone will say this but yes, I'm aware that all ISTPs are different, yadda yadda. Just wondering personal experiences: how well you get along with children, are you a parent, etc.

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Not an istp but I have 3 children with one. My husband is much more affectionate with his kids than he is with other people , both with words and physical touch , he's especially fond of our daughter ( whatever she wants she gets, to be fair she's a very easygoing and obedient child)
He always liked kids though- it's adult he doesn't trust his emotions with .


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slashhackz said:

Growing up misunderstood makes it so I tend to be able to reach kids where they live and want to understand and give understanding when needed.
I remember still what it felt like to be misunderstood for so long and still am going through this today.
Some teens feel misunderstood when in fact they are not misunderstood they are simply dealing with people who don't remember what it was like to be them.

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I consider myself good with kids and this is why.

all people love ISTPs. Kids are no exception. Only people who don’t love us are people who don’t get us or who are pissed off that we are not interested in them at all. But ordinarily the more we ignore someone the more they like us and that does apply to children and animals as well.

@ai.tran.75

Except for the quantity of kids, I could have wrote that post. He is definitely more "fun-loving" than I am, and providing affection to the girls comes quite easily for him. He lacks the ability discipline, though, when needed and that is where I seem to shine (sarcasm, btw - I know you read/thanked my earlier post on spanking).

I have two kids, aged 2 and almost 4.

I can discipline well, if need be, but my daughter doesn't need it. She's a daddy's girl through and through. My son is a little shit, but he's coming around now that he has turned two, oddly enough.

Agree with @ai.tran.75 I'm much more patient and docile with my kids than I am with other people. When my daughter was but a wee little Turd Bucket, I could see and watch her play for hours. Watching her learn was the greatest thing ever for me. Wish I could say the same for my son, but his brain just doesn't work like mine and I couldn't track his thoughts like I could hers. She's definitely got the same functions I do, but the order of which is still being determined. Probably ESTP, as she's constantly go go go go, and she has sharp as fuck Se and Fe. That kid has NO fear. She'll climb on top of shit, and yell catch me as she's jumping. The amount of times I have saved that kid from death is astounding.

My son is probably something like INFP or off function stack from mine. I can't track him at all.

Other kids? Not so much. Occasionally, I'll come across a kid that I don't mind, but it's pretty rare.

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all people love ISTPs. Kids are no exception. Only people who don’t love us are people who don’t get us or who are pissed off that we are not interested in them at all. But ordinarily the more we ignore someone the more they like us and that does apply to children and animals as well.

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Or people with an ISTP for an ex and a vendetta against them aha

I'm good with kids, I guess. They always come to me, after the initial introduction. Maybe it has something to do with me liking toys and that I talk to them, I dunno.