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im more comfortable around boys, i feel like they just dont inspect my behaviors that much and they view emotions on a more surface level which makes you feel chill and relaxed around them, like theyre not gonna examine you. thats the case with some boys, and then some boys are more psychology-prone. but MOST girls judge alittle too much.
 

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All in general I'm more comfortable around men first impression wise, perhaps its because I grew up with a lot boys and men hence the easier communication.

I enjoy women as well , I don't find them judgmental- it's just harder to click because with women I need more time to get to know them - likewise their first impression of me is quite different than what they view of me months /years into a friendship.

With that said there are many women with whom I connect instantly with and men that are slow to warm .



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That's actually an interesting question, it gets some really interesting answers.

I haven't a clue why but ever since I was a toddler I've always been really drawn to girls. I said in another thread somewhere too, when I was little and my mum took me out somewhere and lost me she'd always always always find me talking to some random girl somewhere. We've got some photos of me when I was little from when my mum found me with random girls, it's pretty funny to see. I haven't changed in the mentality at all but all them social anxieties stop me from doing that now and I don't want people to think I'm coming onto the girls I try to be closer with so I stop myself from gravitating towards girls too much. But I always really want to be friends with girls I meet and I feel a lot more comfortable opening up to them than I do guys. Nearly all of my favourite characters from things are girls too. Probably weird but hey.

Not that I don't like being around guys though. I never have a clue what to say around really masculine dudes though, we're too different.
 

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I prefer a mixed crowd - it seems like both sexes step up their game a bit if there are both men and women present.

On a one-on-one level I'm more comfortable with women. I find them more open, less competitive and especially a lot less mansplainy. (This is probably because most of the men I know are people I work with - I'm sure they're much less self-important when they're at home with their friends and family.)

I've also always had that one female BFF, and in my life the "men come and go but girlfriends stay" cliché has really been true. When I was young I used to have good male friends too, but the sexual tension thing always got in the way sooner or later. Either it was mutual, and the friendship turned into a romantic relationship, or it was one-sided, and the friendship got awkward.
 

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It has always been men/boys who I have been more comfortable with.
 

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I used to prefer male company but that's because I felt that I could never "fit in" with females (and stupidly assumed all they care about is fashion/makeup/pop/men) but I'm really glad I've made female friends now.
 

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I get on well with intellectually or spiritually oriented men, but not with typical "lads" who care only for porn, muscles, sport, cars and picking girls up. Most all-male crowds are made up of "lads", so they suck.

With women or mixed companies, I usually feel comfortable.
 

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Opposite- mostly due to my interests,studies, and the type of profession that I am pursuing for the most part.
 

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Equally comfortable but the dynamics are different. A lot of times guys I'm around jockey for position in the pecking order to see who's the most alpha. Ego vs ego. Especially if there's one woman close enough to watch & hear us. Not always but sometimes. Seems to taper off some after 25. I never got that stuff from women, we're not competing. An ex-girlfriend told me she could talk to me like a woman. Wasn't sure what she meant. She said she could tell me anything & I listen, try to understand & not judge. Depending on the woman that could be good or a major turn-off. Who I'm most comfortable with depends on my mood at the moment.
 

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I always find women more friendly and appealing to be around. Whenever I'm around guys I don't know, I'm afraid they're gonna make fun of me, be sarcastic, or hit me, or just generally be rude and/or cold (even though that's generally unlikely). But that's for people I don't know well. If it's someone I know well and am familiar with and have a good relationship with.....hard to tell. Probably guys, because due to my history in the back of my mind I view almost every encounter as a potential turn on or romantic encounter or quasi romantic tranquility or turn off. Girls can be quite friendly, but guys can be more relatable, but that's only if I already know them well. But by "know them well" since I'm talking mostly about Muslim girls, I mean talk as a casual acquaintance. Not friend. but I've made american female friendships EDIT: although none of them have lasted
 

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Hmm. Well I have some really close male friends, but I'd say I get along, based on quantity, with women more. I'm also gay.

They're just easier to talk to, and their behaviors aren't hindered by society as much as men.
 

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When I was young, definitely boys. In middle school/high school, girls. Now, both are fine. In general, I'm more comfortable with girls as a whole. The boy, it really depends on the individual.
 

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Believe it or not, I think it is more about type. Male or female is not nearly as significant as being a good personal fit for friendship. Some people are easy to get along with, with others it will never happen.

Learning about MBTI has been very helpful to me. It has explained a great deal about my behavior, as well as that of others.

With females there is almost always some sort of sexual energy or tension. Sometimes it gets acted on, sometimes not.
 

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Both but it depends on the person sometimes. I can carry a conversation with both. The men who look the least friendly are usually the ones I have the easiest conversation with.

When I was little, the majority of my friends were boys. From teenage years to now, my friendships are with females because it's not easy to have a platonic one with a male. Any male friendship I had, turned into a crush, either on their side or mine, & it got messed up. I am friendly with men but they aren't my friends per se. I don't mean flirting, just casual chatting. The only men I hang out with now would be the husbands of my friends, with my friends present of course.

The women that I don't feel comfortable around would be those that like to gossip. And those that are fake, putting on a facade. The men that make me uncomfortable are the flirts, & creepers.

Edit: I also have a high percentage of clients who are retired men. And I have a coffee machine at my office, so they come by to get a coffee, & stay to chat with me anywhere from 20 minutes to an hour each time.
 

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I guess it depends. I prefer having a female doctor, and when I was going to therapy I specifically wanted a female therapist. I think if I were a man I'd be more comfortable having a male doctor/therapist. Whenever I've had female bosses I've usually found them to be less intimidating than male bosses.

When I was a kid/teen I did have more male friends than female friends, but now I'm fine hanging out with either gender. It depends more on the person than their gender.
 

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My mind developed quickly, but my body took a while. I was a creative and sensitive skinny kid, so the guys thought I was a pansy. Growing up, I had mostly female friends. The girls were a lot more fun and still are.
 
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