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I really don't make too much noise and I am also guilty of thinking of "what ifs" while caught up in the act that make me almost laugh. I do crack a smile but then try to focus in. My mind really wanders while Im having sex. I do admit I used to date an ex stripper and she would whisper things for me to say out loud to her, which I did but it was that hesistant tone and not the sexy tone she expected lol. :crazy:
 

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This caught my attention because something I have always heard from everyone is that I am extremely loud. I'm an INTP and I don't hear myself at ALL. I only speak coherently when I'm giving instructions or demands and I remember and hear those things, but I also scream and moan and I don't even hear it unless it is pointed out to me.
 

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From what little experience I have had with sex I was somewhat quiet. But I was also worried I wasn't doing it right, I don't think she is enjoying it, was this really a good idea, and this isn't what I thought it was going to feel like. so those distractions could of made so I didn't notice me moaning too much. :crying: :unsure::laughing:
 

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I don't speak unless something really hurts or really feels good, then there's more of a surprised "Oh, God!" or something, but nothing excessive.

But I'm a moaner/groaner~

Talkative guys bug me unless their dirty talk is amazing.
 

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I'm, uh, actually pretty loud.

Which is funny, because I'm generally a quiet person aside from sex.

But it's like the noise is my way of communicating to my guy that I'm really into it, you know? Like my half of the feedback loop; he tends to respond not through voice but in other ways, and so we cycle around and around. It's not dirty talk, I do a little of that but usually only if he prompts it, it's just generally sounds and impromptu words (your typical "oh god, oh geez, etc" stuff and lots of moaning, shuddering, catching of breath, whining, and whatever else); and it doesn't really bother/embarrass me much, it comes out naturally. I've had times where I tried to force it and it didn't feel right, so I stopped that; but if I feel it, I go with it. I also like the sounds our bodies make when they bang into each other. I've always liked sound and touch more than sight per se.

I rent a room from someone who owns a house right now, and I found out the other night that the guy who lives there could hear me. I didn't think he could, and I mentioned it in a conversation as a joke this past week, and he laughed and said, "Oh, yeah, I actually hear everything; I'm a light sleeper; I heard you the other night." *doh* He said it didn't bother him; I felt rather mortified at the thought of waking him up... but a small part of me felt pleased, I guess underneath it all there is a slight bit of exhibitionist in me. :tongue:

In the end, I'm not really embarrassed about sex. I'm not into people who flaunt it all over the place, but otherwise it's a pretty typical and healthy human activity and I see no reason to make it "hush-hush" or pretend it doesn't happen. I guess that is a "rational" response. And I also want to be good at whatever I do, as well as explore the boundaries. One thing I am really good at artistically and otherwise is seeing what something could be idealistically and getting it to that level, and I guess sex is no different.

Talkative guys bug me unless their dirty talk is amazing.
Yeah, I'm not really much into it either unless they're good; otherwise, actual talking and not shutting up ends up sounding more like a buzzing fly or something, and I want to slap it away. Everything has to be channeled into the flow. It's why I might make lots of sounds but don't really "talk" a ton myself, I think it's sort of distracting.
 

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I find that I moan quite a bit, when it feels good and I like to get lost in it but then also sometimes to actually get myself more into it.

I've never really done dirty talk whilst having sex. I wouldn't know how to react, but I think if the guy is obviously comfortable with what he's saying to me I would become more comfortable in saying stuff back and it could result in being quite a turn on for me. :tongue:
 

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I am not quiet, and it takes a lot of effort for me to be quiet. It's not so much talking as it is moaning and such, with the occasional "Fuck me" or maybe an order here and there... it depends on who I'm with. Oh, I also really respond to dirty talk. So, I don't like my partner to be quiet either. The stereotypical "Oh baby" doesn't really do it for me. That's much too tame.

I have found that men tend to be much less vocal than women in the sack. Which slightly bothered me because I am very ig on sound. I watch porn for the noises, not the picture. Then I found a vocal guy and about lost my mind :D.
Wow.
I typically don't swear. At least not around others. But I've always been intrigued by the expression "Fuck me." My acting professor said it once in awhile when she was wrong about something and had to admit it.
 

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I dont really know whether it's good or bad, but I am quiet during sex. Perhaps the reason i scream so much during everyday life is because i dont make any noise during sex?
 
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