[badzee28]

I'm always getting told by people that when they meet me, I'm so much different than they thought I'd be. One girl even told me she thought I'd be an asshole from my appearance. lol. I'm always getting told that I look like I am pissed off and that I am intimidating. Then when they get to know me it goes away pretty quick. It gets kind of annoying when it comes to dating because i always seem to attract the girls looking for the hardass for some reason. Then when they meet awkward old me it doesn't go all too well, haha. Anyone else have this problem? I seem to carry the "asshole" persona in terms of appearance

 

[Rogue Eagle]

I've been told I look like a psychopath.

I can live with it

 

[brightidealist]

Well one of my best friends told me that on the day she met me last summer, she thought I'd end up being a stuck-up and arrogant girl... don't quite know how she picked up on that vibe, since I literally don't have a shed of arrogance in me. :tongue: Maybe it has to do with us INFPs automatically acting overly quiet and awkward when we really are trying to make a good first impression.

 

[Blue Butterfly]

I wish I was scary. And I try to be sometyimes. But I just can't make people believe that I am dangerous until they stomp one of my values.

 

[brightidealist]

Blue Butterfly--your signature made me smile. :laughing:

 

[Blue Butterfly]

Blue Butterfly--your signature made me smile. :laughing:

Thanks, I make it in windows paint. I was in a colorful mood that day.

 

[OrangeAppled]

Yeah, people often say I am different from what they expected. I know people online may scoff at the idea of an INFP intimidating people, but I think they underestimate how much people project onto quiet people. I've gotten "snobby" and "unfriendly" more times than I care to admit, but that is quickly retracted once someone gets to know me.

 

[Nasmoe]

I don't think many people have been scared of me. When they say I am different from what they expected it's usually because they thought I was super shy and I let them see my real side. Other than that those who didn't know me thought I was a snob, but not exactly scary. Maybe a little off putting with my shy awkwardness that makes me seem aloof, but not really threatening.

 

[jess5143]

I try to make it clear that I'm harmless, but everyone always assumes that I'm snobbish or naturally vicious. xD

We seem intimidating because we're extremely in touch with our inner worlds. Everyone else is either unfamiliar or uncomfortable with that aspect of our personalities.
Anyone know of any tricks to seem less..foreign?
lol

 

[Darkestblue]

I've been told I'm intimidating. Not so much anymore because I've gotten good at putting on a non-threatening face while out in public.

 

[OrangeAppled]

We seem intimidating because we're extremely in touch with our inner worlds. Everyone else is either unfamiliar or uncomfortable with that aspect of our personalities.

And unfamiliar or uncomfortable with that aspect of THEIR OWN personalities even.

I think that hits the nail on the head....Fi is supposedly the function most in touch with the unconscious, a part of themselves a big chunk of the population doesn't access all that much.

 

[SarahPalindrome]

I think I put on an intimidating persona, sometimes. It's a defense against feeling vulnerable, I suppose.

 

[Johnny815]

I'm always getting told by people that when they meet me, I'm so much different than they thought I'd be. One girl even told me she thought I'd be an asshole from my appearance. lol. I'm always getting told that I look like I am pissed off and that I am intimidating. Then when they get to know me it goes away pretty quick. It gets kind of annoying when it comes to dating because i always seem to attract the girls looking for the hardass for some reason. Then when they meet awkward old me it doesn't go all too well, haha. Anyone else have this problem? I seem to carry the "asshole" persona in terms of appearance

Dude! I have the same exact problem! And the girls that are interested in me and think I'm an asshole always seem disappointed to find out I'm not.. then they flee. WTF!?

 

[jess5143]

Dude! I have the same exact problem! And the girls that are interested in me and think I'm an asshole always seem disappointed to find out I'm not.. then they flee. WTF!?

It must be those foolish female fantasies. You know, they want the cheap thrill of meeting some dark, mysterious, brooding man with some violent past or history to make them more intriguing and ultimately having some sick desire to solve them like a puzzle and make them 'better' again? IDK. Women are strange creatures. But they're not all like that though. :laughing:

 

[Atenza Coltheart]

Er.. not scary, but random and "WTF" kinda expressions are what I get. XD

 

[Johnny815]

It must be those foolish female fantasies. You know, they want the cheap thrill of meeting some dark, mysterious, brooding man with some violent past or history to make them more intriguing and ultimately having some sick desire to solve them like a puzzle and make them 'better' again? IDK. Women are strange creatures. But they're not all like that though. :laughing:

Hmm. Maybe I should start wearing pink shirts and see what happens then :]

 

[jess5143]

Hmm. Maybe I should start wearing pink shirts and see what happens then :]

Haha. I encourage you to experiment. :crazy:
But beware. You don't want to attract the wrong kind of attention..lol

 

[Johnny815]

Haha. I encourage you to experiment. :crazy:
But beware. You don't want to attract the wrong kind of attention..lol

Haha. That made me laugh. Definitely can't have that!

 

[badzee28]

Haha. I encourage you to experiment. :crazy:
But beware. You don't want to attract the wrong kind of attention..lol

It couldn't hurt me. I seem to attract that type of attention already :/

My roommate gets it worse than I do though. They all love his sexy Italian accent :crazy:

 

[Goosefish]

People have told me that I scared them because I don't talk a lot so they didn't know what I was thinking.