Are you socially awkward?
I am not a social god and I don't have friends around the universe. However, there are some people with very serious attitudes and people with stuttering both of which slows down their ability to have a conversation. I usually don't suffer from these limitations which I think are a key cause of awkwardness. I don't usually make people uncomfortable via my words. Sometimes bored if they can't penetrate the surface of deadpan expressions and see a joke. Though on the other hand I ignore many conventions or contest them. I don't really think about it so I don't know many examples off-hand.What you think makes you awkward, not recognising that there are some implicit "social rules" or not caring about them?
That's a business strategy plan for organisations on social media.I have no idea, but i did find this pdf on it:
I don't know how accurate it is though.
I once had a boyfriend who used to go to parties and just stand there with his back against the wall looking cool. He was probably ISFJ. Before I knew him, I would watch him in fascination because people would just wander up to him and engage him and he'd barely have to do anything. He had so many friends following him around, and yet it looked like he didn't need any. I think part of the reason I wound up dating him is because I wanted this power for myself. I watched, and I learned. It was hard for me and against type, but I think I got it, and I still wind up "channeling" that guy when I need to in strange situations.Awkward doesn't even begin to describe what I am. I just don't know how to respond in certain (read: most) social situations, my brain usually goes "oh no, I don't know what to say, help, it's my turn to speak, what do I do, BRING ON THE PANIC", that makes me overthink even more... cue the awkward silence. It's due to a paralyzing fear more than anything else, I think I might have a certain degree of social anxiety, maybe even an avoidant personality. (Not sure if I'd be diagnosed with an actual disorder, though. Maybe, who knows, who cares.) However, I find that actively trying to engage in social situations with people I know well (and therefore am not scared of) is slowly making things better. I've always responded well to exposure therapy.
Not an INTP, and so on. However, I wrote this in a different thread, which I feel summarises my thoughts on this topic relatively well:Are you socially awkward?
Seq said:I'm not sure what you mean by 'charming' and 'telling them what to think'. However, I am very aware that there are certain norms and expectations that one is often supposed to conform to when interacting with others. Personally, I ignore those norms and expectations. I simply cannot bring myself to care about them, no matter what I do (such is the life of ignoring Si).
Instead of abiding by the rules of convention, I tend to move on to abstract ideas immediately. Generally speaking, people don't appreciate that. Even if they don't dislike abstract ideas, they often seem to find the sudden shift to ideas intimidating. Furthermore, I tend to pursue logical consistency quite relentlessly when I have such conversations. I think that this is probably quite overwhelming and unusual to people.
For the most part, the above also applies when I talk theoretically to people about themselves. So long as the relevant norms and expectations are in force, people won't open up. However, if someone is feeling bad, they're far more receptive to having theoretical conversations (about themselves) than is normally the case. Thus, I usually develop relations with other people by talking abstractly to them about themselves during circumstances when they have little choice but to ignore the norms and expectations.
Unexpectedly, I tend to feel disadvantaged and isolated from people due to norms and expectations. It might be that you're looking to express a similar feeling. I always long to meet people whom are open to have the kinds of conversations that I am interested in having, without the therapist detour. I don't mind talking to people about themselves, but I would prefer to do it on equal terms, where I can feel sure that they're not discussing my other ideas with me for no other reason than that I helped them out with their personal problems (to the point where they trust me blindly and dogmatically).