So true. I tend to check out if it becomes more of the latter.Conversations are about content to me, but they often seem to be about maintaining a mood to other people.
I honestly would have peaced out probably much sooner, usually end up in these conversations only because I was asked for advice in the first place...she peaced out at exactly the point i would as well. said her piece, saw the reception, moved on. only difference is, i think i'd feel obligated to tell middlegirl she's drifting towards stalker turf with that last thing, because that actually is what i think. but i wouldn't expect or wait for anyone to engage with the thought. i'd just put it up out of due diligence and get gone.
I saw a comment on there that Rebecca is that person you go to for advice and then do the opposite. lol
You mean the mind-reading game where you try to figure out why someone is behaving the way they are and read into it all however you want to rationalize it... rather than acknowledging the fact that for whatever reason, said behavior is causing anxiety and you personally don't like it?i've been thinking about it, and i think what it is is, i'm not into emotional vapourware. i do find people interesting and i can 'gossip' with the best of them. i mean, my hobby right now is watching real-life criminal trials and trying to put the psychological puzzle together so it all properly hangs together for me.
but i need it to have some basis in reality. pure speculation just for the sake of wallowing in a particular mental framework regardless of whether or not it's borne out by the facts on the ground . . . not my thing. that's what i see going on in this clip. the two bracket women don't even care if there's any substance to what they're making up together, and your intj figure is getting voted out of the room because she's bringing a knife to their pillow fight.
or something like that. i dunno. my metaphor-er is broken tonight, but you probably get what i mean. she's basically in the 'wrong' game.