+1! Mega congrats to you, Bro! You are "The Lion King!"Congrats!
The similarities between ESTP men and women are at times staggering, as you will see in my parenting responses as compared to NJchicks.I have three daughters. Coming from a mother's point of view may be different but I'll try to help.
+1, this is the standard in my house too. I have two daughters, 8 and 5. We get along very well, and I am friendly with them when it's play time, or when there is not anything major that has to get done. But, business is business, and play time is play time, and both of them know I am in charge 100% of the time. If I say turn the laptops off, ot turn off the Wii, or put away the art supplies, it means do it now. I expect my kids to do what they were told to do, when they were told to do it. And, if they keep their affairs in order as such and tow the line, I give them alot of latitude to enjoy their free time, which they understand and appreciate.There are differences with our ESTP parenting. For instance, I am like a friend to my kids. I talk to my teenagers about everything, I want a clear line of communication. I joke, I'm sarcastic, a bit of a kid myself but they know my role. They don't cross me. I find some inappropriate things funny that other parents may not.
OMG, my 5-year old is a stand up comedian. Every teacher in her school and every member of our family is shocked at how witty, direct, and humorous she is. Her sister is a card too, but she is more reserved, so you just hear less out of her, but when does pipe up it's good stuff too. Two different children, two different personalities.Unfortunately, they've picked up on my humor and dish it out quite often. My husband usually just shakes his head and laughs.
Yes, totally agree with you here, NJ. If you establish their place in the family when they are toddlers, and encourage them to have good manners, and be polite, and respectful, and praise them when they do what they are told, you are laying the groundwork for them to be well adjusted kids and later adults. Parents who let their kids run around the house and destroy it and then put it all together again while Johnny is sleeping ewnd up with spoiled brat nightmarish childdren. When we were done playing, we would clean up our mess and sing the clean up song: "Clean up, clean up, everybody does their share!" And they never questioned it. We led by example, and they followed suit, and now it is default behavior.I was pretty strict when they were toddlers, I think that age is your opportunity to set a foundation.
I think an evolutionary adaption is for parents to repress the first 90 days of their child's lives. :laughing: LOL!The baby stage is interesting, you'll be there for a while. Just enjoy it. Expect some sleepless nights. Expect your SO to be exhausted.
Yes. Help your wife, and she will help you, and together you'll build a beautiful family.You're both going to be put in a place of unselfishness, learn from it.
I didn't have ANY experience with kids until becoming a Dad! YIKES!I didn't have any experience with children when I was single. I didn't have that natural maternal drive. Babies didn't give me the feelings other women talked about. I couldn't even imagine myself married to one person forever, let alone being a mother.
Fatherhood is one of the most rewarding experiences in this world. You are blessed to have a chance to be a Father. Do your best, you'll screw up a few things, but forgive yourself and learn from your mistakes, and keep trucking. You will become better at managing your time than ever before. Get your rest now Bro, do some planning, and spend time with wifey, take a trip while she is still small and comfortable and can travel. My wife and I went to Vancouver and the Olympic Peninsula before our eldest was born. It was a great trip, it made the first year of parenthood easier as we had some vacation time under our belts to help deal with being new parent shut ins. ;-)That all changes when it's your baby. You fall in love the moment you see them. You'll know what to do. This is going to stretch you as a person.
This topic makes me want to go squeeze a baby right now.