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So I've heard many people say that INFP ENTJ matches are heavenly. Since I'm an ENTJ and I'm super addicted to PerC, I thought I'd come answer any questions you amazing idealists may have for an ENTJ. I guess that's pretty egoistic, but it's a personality flaw ;) I'm crushing on an INFP so I can answer relationship questions (him and I are pretty close) as well as most other questions because I'm pretty open about myself.

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Love me some ENTJs! lol I'll bite. I'm wondering: how are you guys in a relationship, particularly when it's just starting out, just talking, and things aren't exactly close to being "official?"
 

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I'm actually interested in how having Te as your dominant and Fi and your inferior affects your life and your outlook on relationships. Since idealist are the exact opposite.
 

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Love me some ENTJs! lol I'll bite. I'm wondering: how are you guys in a relationship, particularly when it's just starting out, just talking, and things aren't exactly close to being "official?"
Based on your question, I'm assuming the relationship is close but not an official romantic relationship. In this case, it's pretty open and intense. I tell it like it is all the time, he knows where I stand. He, on the other hand, doesn't tell me his emotions too much but for some reason I can just sense it. There's less of a reservedness and little insecurities than most relationships. The chemistry is as intense as you would find in some cheesy vampire romance novel, I can't even explain it in any other way.

There are also some disadvantages by all means. He's a bit too emotional and romantic for my tastes. His head is always in the clouds and he doesn't understand my needs like the fact that I need stability, honesty, and for him to use logic when making decisions for/about me. He's also quite insecure, which really bugs me because I'm not good at complimenting him (or anyone else, for that matter) over and over again, it makes me feel weak. However I don't think healthy INFPs deal with this.
I'm doing the best I can :proud: but this is a broad question and our relationship is near indescribable. If you have any questions that are more specific, I'd love to answer!
 

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I'm actually interested in how having Te as your dominant and Fi and your inferior affects your life and your outlook on relationships. Since idealist are the exact opposite.
My cognitive functions are pretty weird, so I don't know how well I'd be able to answer this. I actually have a pretty strong Fi, it's only third down on the list, and my least used function is actually Fe. However, I think I can answer about Te Dom. Because I have Te dominant (and I'm guessing my other functions and enneagram also play onto this), I usually see relationships as a waste of time and a weakness. I don't like getting my head clouded up with emotions because my brain is always like "I have more ambition than this" and I try to stay away from relationships as much as I can. Te is basically all about planning/organizing/compartmentalizing in order to reach the highest level of efficiency and productivity you can manage, and if emotions don't come into my planning (they usually don't..), then I see them as counterproductive and inneficient.
 

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If you can sell your car to a close friend for $1000, and to a stranger for $1200, which do you choose?
I would definitely sell it to the close friend, I'm not heartless :p contrary to popular belief. If the difference between profit was more defined, say over $1000, I might consider choosing the other option, but I don't think ENTJs are too money-driven. We strive for power, success and to fulfill our ambitions. If money clings to us along the way, we simply don't put on an act of false modesty and instead embrace the power money gives us.
 

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What has drawn you to the INFP and visa versa?
I don't think I am specifically drawn to INFPs per se. In fact, I think any one of the four NT's would be of my preference, and then an xNFP would come second. (Any other type does not seem like one I would engage a romantic relationship with, however I could imagine being good friends with most).

However with this particular INFP and I, I feel like we are just the living example of "opposites attract". We are different in mostly every aspect but alike in the ones that are necessary to keep us interested. Being a type 8 enneagram, my passion is lust. I think he is alluring to me because of the intense feelings he makes me feel, whether it be hatred (not uncommon) or love or even lust. I cannot really speak for him, but he thinks that I am more passionate and "real" than girls he's dated before. He finds the fact that I am so logical, manipulative, and hard on myself amusing, and he likes to try to get me to bring my guard down.

That being said, at least with this particular relationship in general, I don't think it is very healthy. While opposites may attract, attraction is by far not the only thing necessary to sustain a relationship. We understand each other's unspeakable emotions a lot, but there is little mutual understanding of beliefs as a whole. We have very different values, and a lot of it seems like infatuation so far, but oh is it a beautiful type of infatuation. :laughing:
 

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rue or False - ENTJs secretly love NFs! :shocked:
 

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Where do you think your compatibilities lie with the INFP?
How would you describe your communication style with him? Feel free to answer in any way.
How have you dealt with any conflictual scenarios? If any.
 

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Have you come close to crossing his values and if so, did his reaction affect you in any way more than you would have expected it to?
 

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How does your Fi express itself?
I think my answer is likely to be different than the typical ENTJ because my Fi is very well developed. With that warning, I think that it helps me maintain that attitude of "I do what I want". With an ENTJ, known for being ambitious and calculating, it helps me better assess exactly what I want and what I value and what my ethical standpoint is. I guess you can say it is basically an addition to my Te but without the factual data.
 

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Where do you think your compatibilities lie with the INFP?
How would you describe your communication style with him? Feel free to answer in any way.
How have you dealt with any conflictual scenarios? If any.
I do not know if it is this INFP in particular or all INFPs, but I have said to him on more than one occasion that we are incompatible. Now, on a surface level this clearly seems to be the case. I am at his throat for nearly everything and he does not approach me with tough love like I wish he would. He is ever the dreamer and ever the romantic when all I really want to do is engage him in a fiery, lusty debate.

However, our compatibility and our communication mostly happens on a deeper level. He seems to truly believe that I am not a bitch, which surprises me. He sees "the good" in me, and while that is a bit cheesy, I feel a type of endearment for anyone who is willing to look past my outer self. Most of our communication is wordless and minimalistic, and there is always that dangerous lust looming in the air that does most of our communication for us. When we do talk, most of it is empty words and we mostly read the meaning behind it. Being a writer that is very fond of communications in general, it is a very intriguing type of bonding I have never felt before.

We are still learning to work on our many conflicts. It usually does not go well, as I am adamant on pressing and provoking and shoving the issue in his face (aggressive, very) and he likes to ignore the topic and he will likely just leave. This is even true when I have made the mistake and I want some sort of punishment to let me know that we are on good terms, but he can't bear it and wants me to just "drop it".
 
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