yup and it is a double edged sword. My friends greatly value my opinion as it is brutally honest and comes with no angle of my own, and if there is a personal bias I will disclose it. I am very good with analogies which can be helpful when someone is having trouble understanding the perspective of their situation and that by getting them to see it in a slightly different light allows them to have a new paradigm and get out of their mental rut.As ENTJs, do you guys feel like you have a habit of giving people advice, or "teaching" them - often of your own accord?
The problem is I have to actively restrain myself in situations where being critical is going to cause problems. From pointing out operational flaws in managers to friends having an emotionally dysfunctional day, what I might see as being helpful in solving a problem to them is confrontational or a painful reminder of a personal failure.
I've gotten better at gauging the appropriateness of my insights, but I still screw up from time to time.
As for taking advice, I love it. I have come to understand that my personal way of seeing the world does have its blind spots and having someone able to provide insight into those is critical. Sometimes it may not be things I want to hear as they may run highly contradictory to my own assumptions. Filtering out what is personal attack meant only to do damage and what is an honest flaw that should be improved is a struggle because if it was a total lie it wouldn't be upsetting to hear. Figuring out the balance is something that has been a focus of mine for years and something I actively work on.