For me, its people who are not frightened to stand up for others. People who aren't frightened/uncomfortable with confrontation (when it's being used for good).I'll get this thread started
What traits do your role models have in common? What makes them your role models?
I would pick the one that never changed. I want to believe in my head that I would pick the unpredictable / ever changing one because then I'd be adventurous and cool.... but in reality, I would rather pick the never changing one. I will add one caveat though, ONLY if the never changing one has good feelings. Like my family is happy and we're all in a good place. I actually find a lot of joy in things that other people would say are "mundane." I like hearing about my kids' day in school and catching up with a friend or just chilling with my husband after the kids are in bed. To me it's the little things that make a life.If you had to pick a life: one that never changes, or one that constantly has unpredictable and everlasting changes. (I am talking about
the extreme extremities). Consistent vs Volatile (for good or bad) lifestyles.
And why do you pick the one you chose?
Wake up around 7am, have breakfast with my family, drop kids off at school, go to yoga, get some tea / coffee with a friend and catch up, run errands / be productive getting things done, get kids from school and chat with them about their day, cook dinner with my husband and eat as a family, put kids to bed and spend the rest of the night watching a show with my husband or meeting up with some of my girlfriends at their house. So I guess, a pretty typical day where everything runs smoothly. (Yes, of course I also would like days with more adventure built into them but if I'm honest with myself, I like those to be reserved to vacation or a certain duration before returning to normal life)What does your ideal day look like?
Feeling like I'm in a committed and stable relationship where we both are doing our part working towards a common goal / values. I feel happy when the work I do at home or for our family is recognized (with words) and when my husband gives me undivided attention to hear my stories no matter how trivial they may be (obviously for my INTP husband this is a limited amount of time... but during that time I feel like he's truly listening and giving me his all). I feel happy when we're on the same page with life values and how we raise our kids and what's important to us as a family and when we work as a team towards those goals.What things in relationships make you the most happy?
For one, we notice. Haha! But that aside, yes I do think it's important to us. I think it is what makes our world a kinder place. It's one way to show you care about people by doing small things for them. It's like life drums on at a basic level of busyness and anonymity but when somebody else on their own accord does some small act of kindness or remembers a small detail about you, it can really turn someone's day for the better. I think it makes people feel like they matter and are noticed and not just swimming in a sea of people and work and jobs and busy life, you know? Like it brings a little humanity back.So is it all really about "all the small details" such as my ESFJ's tell me on a daily?
Who notices all these "small details"?
I know ESFJ notice. I am reminded all the time or is that reprimanded every time...hmhmmFor one, we notice. Haha! But that aside, yes I do think it's important to us. I think it is what makes our world a kinder place. It's one way to show you care about people by doing small things for them. It's like life drums on at a basic level of busyness and anonymity but when somebody else on their own accord does some small act of kindness or remembers a small detail about you, it can really turn someone's day for the better. I think it makes people feel like they matter and are noticed and not just swimming in a sea of people and work and jobs and busy life, you know? Like it brings a little humanity back.
I do not believe to be true that there is such a thing as a selfless individual.I think we ESFJs know that other people don't really do these little things a lot or really care to do them, but I guess it's something we feel we can give to the world to meet people's needs before maybe they even know they have one. A simple "thank you" or a sign of appreciation can really make someone's day and it's not that hard to do and pay attention to the people around you. (Secretly or not so secretly if you're married to an ESFJ, we hope that the people who love us will return the same kindness to us. We do a lot for the people we love in our families, so many little things every day noticed and unnoticed, so I guess we just "hope" that they will sometimes return the same thoughtfulness to us even though we understand that others aren't necessarily as good at it is as we are... it's the thought, no wait, the effort that counts)
My ideal day:What does your ideal day look like?
What things in relationships make you the most happy?
Some say its because God is a big fan of the colour blue.Why is the sky blue ???
Ohh, can I ask you about how you and your partner deal with arguments or disagreements? I am an ENFJ and my partner is an INTJ and we are so great together until an argument happens. Both of us are so bold headed we don't want to back down if that makes sense :dry:My ideal day:
A day out with friends exploring something, somewhere that I've never been, followed by going out for dinner in the evening, and winding down with a few drinks and banter in the evening.
My actual day:
Get up at half 5, get ready for work and feed the cat, drive to work, work, drive home from work, prepare dinner for me and my ISTJ partner, followed by either slouching in front of the TV or the laptop, then bed... repeat 4 more times to the weekend. Sometimes I spice things up by going to the gym before work. .