So they really don't see their own problems as worrisome as others, because they're naturally always thinking of the group? Trying to put myself in their shoes, and while I do get it, I don't get it, if you know what I mean. Meaning even if I do the right thing for the group in sacrifice of my own values, the fact that I've considered my own values still exists. Do ESFJs consider their own values and then sacrifice, or does the thought hardly cross their mind because their natural thought process is usually on the needs of the group?It is a self induced psychological restriction that makes sense given
their need to put the group first. They say its fine
because it is fine in comparison to their actual worries
which is never themselves. I have spent 20 years
trying to get my ESFJ to put herself first. In a typical sense?
She never does. If I am to look at her motives as selfish
then she is selfishly maintaining a social high ground
by sacrificing her sanity in aid of others.
It actually makes sense.
If you have ESFJ in your life then it behooves you to push
them until they explode from time to time. Sort of like venting the
I have become very proficient at this as my wife and Son are ESFJ.