Well, that certainly makes sense! Thanks for your response. And sorry about the scapegoating. Sensors get the shaft :/...I think it's because a lot of our qualities of caring, being helpful, organized, structured, etc. are things you see in other moms too...because you have to be when you have kids. I mean someone has to make sure the kids have some semblance of structure, get to school on time, do their homework, and aren't up all night, etc. So I think moms of all personality types end up having in many ways to fill the roles of enforcing rules whether that really comes naturally to them or not. I think people go down the stereotype route when they see the outward results of what their mom does but don't understand her inner process of getting there.
Also, people who are upset with their moms tend to throw shade our way because they think their mom is overbearing, too in their business, demanding, etc. and somehow that magically equals ESFJs....