I had a very loving 7 month relationship with an ESFJ. Without going into too much detail, he told me loved me & wanted the best for me, but felt he could not give that to me (marriage) & by the time he was ready for marriage, it would be too late & I'd probably have found the right guy. He told me he wanted me to be picky and that I deserve the very best. He told me he needed distance because it would be way to painful to see me & he would want me all over again. I wonder, nearly 7 months later if ever thinks of me & reflects back on those amazing times we had. I know how much I love him, but without any commitment it seems so fruitless. It's complicated with his family (they interfere a lot & Mum has her own health issues - which are mostly imagined) and the fact that he is diagnosed with OCD. Really, I wonder in many ways what would cause an ESFJ to let go of someone they truly love & not fight to make it work.