Perhaps this is a common misconception, or perhaps I am an uncommon ESFJ. In any case, personally I am an incredibly private person, with the exception of my husband and maybe 1-2 close friends. I typically withhold my true, full self around everyone else. There are a million reasons someone might want to hold back information. It perplexes me that people perceive ESFJs as 'open book' or 'wear your heart on your sleeve' types. I am generally so focused on making others feel at ease and cared for, that showing my full self isn't necessary or even wanted by those around me.Norina, yes, good observation. There were other reasons he didn't want to share with me... I often wonder why he would not want to. I typically don't see ESFJs as very private people.
Thanks for the advice.