I wasn't thinking about that when I opened this topic (but your comment is quite pertinent), but you made me think about another thing: sometimes people blame me for being airy about speaking freely about some qualities I've got that I take for granted.I can relate to this, although I've had more trouble with my confidence coming off as arrogance. Most of my life I just slip beneath the surface, am pretty low key compared to most people. In a way I feel incompetent compared to others in a lot of ways.
So when I finally do achieve some kind of success, praise, I like to embrace it because it feels like a real achievement. It seems inauthentic to me to pretend I'm not happy that I've achieved something worthwhile. Yet, people sometimes seem to think I'm acting arrogant, like I'm too eager to accept this success. Maybe I'm just too impractical, and should learn how to project false humility at those moments.
It is strange, being a nine I often feel a bit like a nobody in the big scheme of things. So, it is strange when people treat me like I'm exhibiting qualities of arrogance, self-entitlement. It surprises me greatly as I honestly don't think I'm very special, and I don't think I act like I do. Perhaps I lack awareness of how I present myself.I wasn't thinking about that when I opened this topic (but your comment is quite pertinent), but you made me think about another thing: sometimes people blame me for being airy about speaking freely about some qualities I've got that I take for granted.
@notmonday: it's like nobody expects from us any kind of assertiveness
it's interesting to hear a 9 experiencing this problem, as, in my experience, they're usually the one on the other end. typically, it's the 9s that are accusing me of being too arrogant and I'm the one like "whatever, take it or leave it" (6s, 5s and 4s are also somewhat prone to this).Has this ever happened to you?
This is something pretty common. Sometimes I over-react (even if I haven't got this feeling) and other people think I'm arrogant and insolent, while I just wanted to keep my position.
Do you relate?
These are the only situations in which I enjoy conflict: doesn't matter what they say