I guess the simplest explanation would be that you become emotionally invested in the person, so all the time and energy you put into the relationship is lost when they die. It's hard to build up relationships with people, so it's not like the ones close to you are easily replaceable.
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i don't know. 
it's a very good question.
i guess we all get attached to keep us close to the ones we love, keeping an eye on them and taking care of them. and then when they leave we're left with the devastation of having all of those feelings so strong, but the other person has moved on. whether this be in a relationship, or death of a loved one, or anything... it can be hard.
if you do the things they taught you and let their influence carry on in your life, it's a way of keeping them alive. my mom is still alive, but i'm currently living really far away from her, and i keep imagining all of these things like "oh mom would love this is she was here" and i keep noticing me acting in the same ways as my mom does... and in a way, it's making me feel even closer to her than when i was right there with her, because i realize how much of her is actually in me. it's a nice feeling.
anyway i'm sorry to hear about what you're going through.
it's a very good question.i guess we all get attached to keep us close to the ones we love, keeping an eye on them and taking care of them. and then when they leave we're left with the devastation of having all of those feelings so strong, but the other person has moved on. whether this be in a relationship, or death of a loved one, or anything... it can be hard.
if you do the things they taught you and let their influence carry on in your life, it's a way of keeping them alive. my mom is still alive, but i'm currently living really far away from her, and i keep imagining all of these things like "oh mom would love this is she was here" and i keep noticing me acting in the same ways as my mom does... and in a way, it's making me feel even closer to her than when i was right there with her, because i realize how much of her is actually in me. it's a nice feeling.
anyway i'm sorry to hear about what you're going through.
I can't tell if you're seriously asking or just venting
If you're really asking, there's an evolutionary reason for why we get attached to others. It strengthens our social bonds, and therefore we learn to stay together and protect each other from harm, therefore surviving and eventually reproducing, and allowing our species to last. Our social connections are what allows the human species to exist to this day.
If you're not really asking, I'm sorry for your grandma
*feels geeky*
If you're really asking, there's an evolutionary reason for why we get attached to others. It strengthens our social bonds, and therefore we learn to stay together and protect each other from harm, therefore surviving and eventually reproducing, and allowing our species to last. Our social connections are what allows the human species to exist to this day.
If you're not really asking, I'm sorry for your grandma
*feels geeky*
You can answer most questions on PerC with an evolutionary explanation, but people don't like hearing that kind of stuff for some reasonI can't tell if you're seriously asking or just venting
If you're really asking, there's an evolutionary reason for why we get attached to others. It strengthens our social bonds, and therefore we learn to stay together and protect each other from harm, therefore surviving and eventually reproducing, and allowing our species to last. Our social connections are what allows the human species to exist to this day.
If you're not really asking, I'm sorry for your grandma
*feels geeky*
Ms. @HappyThoughts,
MY heart is with yours during these sad times. I understand how you feel, having recently lost my grandpa (November 5, 2011). There's nothing wrong with your beautiful feelings and love for your dearest grandma. This morning I was crying myself, thinking that perhaps I may not see my own Grandma again (she's visiting NY, and currently with a relative upstate, but she's leaving soon.) Even though she stayed a few days home with me, I am not sure I'll see her again, so my heart sometimes breaks over this. You feel love, and this is no unhealthy attachment, or unnatural, nor should you be too hard on yourself or your feelings (nor is there any reasonable explanation for the way you feel right now, which is quite OK.) I can only cry with you, and send you my warmest regards during these most stressing and saddest of times.
Always remember that your grandma will always prefer you live happily. May her Happy Thoughts and memories fill your heart, as you keep following your dream with all your kind, loving heart.
Warmest Hugs,
IcarusDreams
MY heart is with yours during these sad times. I understand how you feel, having recently lost my grandpa (November 5, 2011). There's nothing wrong with your beautiful feelings and love for your dearest grandma. This morning I was crying myself, thinking that perhaps I may not see my own Grandma again (she's visiting NY, and currently with a relative upstate, but she's leaving soon.) Even though she stayed a few days home with me, I am not sure I'll see her again, so my heart sometimes breaks over this. You feel love, and this is no unhealthy attachment, or unnatural, nor should you be too hard on yourself or your feelings (nor is there any reasonable explanation for the way you feel right now, which is quite OK.) I can only cry with you, and send you my warmest regards during these most stressing and saddest of times.
Always remember that your grandma will always prefer you live happily.
May her Happy Thoughts and memories fill your heart, as you keep following your dream with all your kind, loving heart.Warmest Hugs,
IcarusDreams
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