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Based on the information you have provided, it would seem (assuming the INTJ has felt any connection with you) that prior interactions may have suggested to him that there existed a greater closeness between the two of you. Your recent unexpected (though clearly unintentional) coldness probably caused him to begin second-guessing and blaming himself more than anyone else, as when social occasions backfire, we INTJs naturally assume it to be our fault. He probably feels that he overestimated the strength of your feelings toward him (as a friend or otherwise) and that this is why you now seem or are perhaps trying to be colder.

The good news is, is that INTJs are not usually the type to hold grudges for these type of offences. Be direct and warm (to a degree that you know he can handle based on previous interactions) in your next encounter and just reaffirm that you enjoyed previous conversations with him and nonchalantly say you're sorry if you seemed to blow him off last time. I would not recommend giving an emotional reason for this, for that might suggest emotional instability on your part which could scare him off at this stage. Instead offer up that you were distracted by some kind of intellectual concerns (the less emotional and more rational the better), but that you hope for it not to ruin your friendship. Take responsiblity for it, make it come off as light as possible. However this will require you to be able to more congenial, composed, and brave with him and on a consistent basis. I am sure you can patch this up, but more such incidents will suggest a level of volatility that he will become afraid of engaging with.
 
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