I have a similar relationship with my reflection in the mirror! He's honestly the most beautiful person that I've ever met, inside and out. I'm so glad we found our soulmates! :happy:@Emancipation
I was puzzling over this quandary myself not so long ago. I remember the day I was bemoaning not having a friend just like me, who was interested in all the same things.....and I realized, "Hey! Me! I have me!" It's true: we're interested in all the same things, and we can talk for hours. We even sleep together, so you might say we're friends with benefits. :happy:
The two of us should become friends, expecting each other to be the ideal person we've been looking for, and then end up writing PerC threads about how awfully we disappointed each other. I already have a title in mind: "Are INFJs The Most Likely To Be Self Absorbed Bitchy Friends?" It will be such a saucy discussion!
Definitively. A part of why I came back to PerC is to make some new buddies, so I guess I'm already on a good path on actively searching for friends instead of just waiting for them to "fall into my lap." I have the excuse of my geographical location for why I can't easily find good people IRL, but I have no such excuse for why I can't find good people online.Look in new places for better friends. I find a lot of laziness today in friendships. People expect for others to do all the work, or for authentic friendships to fall into their laps if they just hang out. It doesn't really work that way. It is not only a two way street, you have to make effort in friendships, or you end up alone or with crappy friends.
I like being alone, and being with awesome friends. I keep the number of friendships down so that I have time to tend to them. But you have to go out there and separate the chaff from the grain. If you have been getting mediocre results, look somewhere else. And remember, if you put in crappy effort, you will get crappy results. IMO
BTW, you'd be proud of how I tried to actively befriend a guy recently. I was the first to initiate us exchanging our phone numbers and stuff (but when I saw he isn't really interested in me I just let it slide away because I ain't desperately chasing aaaaaanyone).