[Gleb]

Why the INFPs are everywhere described as so socially awkward weirdos?

It pisses me off. What pisses me even more are that type of INFPs with some naruto motherfucker as a profile pic that are literally on every youtube video about MBTI usually commenting something about them and how they are losers in real life. WTF?! xDDD It is no wonder that people then think all INFPs are like that..

I think I'm not alone who thinks that "soft-emo weirdo who has strong problem of doing any realistically achievable working position" is just a very very stupid stereotype..
Lol, I did MBTI-test just for fun, but the only thing I took away from him is spoiled mood.

Do you agree with me that INFPs can be successful people in real life?
I'm sorry if I offended somebody with this post, when I wrote it I was hella pissed. Also sorry if my English is not perfect.

 

[edge magic]

Not sure if I am an INTP or INFP tho.
Being social awkward I am hearing more from INTPs to be tho.
But there is many stereotypes on INFPs I dont agree with, but I believe some people arent serious either and just trolling around.
Ofc, INFPs can be successful people in real life, the only thing that stops them is themselves who often underestimates themselves, and believes they are dumb even tho they have the 3 highest iq, (highest is INTJ followed by INTP, INFP, INFJ).
One of the most bad infp stereotypes I know and tired and just find stupid. Is that all INFPs and have to depressed, lazy, emos, crybabies, and cant handle the truth etc.
The list gets really long. You dont need to have depression, low paid job, being lazy etc to be an infp. They are all myhts, and I am kind of tired of them.

 

[secondpassing]

Why the INFPs are everywhere described as so socially awkward weirdos?
Do you agree with me that INFPs can be successful people in real life?

Because I-N-F-P

Introverted. We spend our time playing video games and watching anime and theorizing whether or not time travel is real in our houses instead of getting real world practice of how to interact with people.

iNtuitive Se is our seventh function, hence it is our preference to space out when people are talking, reject reality and substitute our own. Sometimes it comes off as ditzy. Sometimes it's really wise or cool or whatever.

Feeling Our saving grace that predicts that most INFPs are better than INTPs at reading social cues because we have a predisposition to sympathize with others.

NF. Idealist Temperment. When idealists can't live up to their ideals, some may struggle with feelings of self-worth, negativitely affecting our social interactions. Can also be a positive, but I'm trying to explain why the stereotype exists.

Percieving Wieghs options to prospect for the best one, possibly makes us hesistant when talking? Could be the reason why we can't get some stuff done? Compound that with NF and it could be a recipie for disaster. However, this can also make us make talk about weird "tangents". If we found something that is really important or really interesting but we fail to read the social cues (again our Se) some people act like nerds.


I think other INFPs face the same problems for the most part, and I think that's okay. Just because MBTI can predict/explain stereotypes, doesn't mean you have to fit it. You can be a social butterfly! You can develop your other functions!

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I think INFPs are set up for being the most "scuccessful" as long as don't think that success comes from money, fame, woman slaves/man slaves, family approval, and other secular achievements. Those things aren't the most important, and INFPs may just be able to find what is.

 

[Energumen]

I am the stereotypical INFP, save for crying fits and hypersensitivity.

 

[mushr00m]

I get that more in real life, there's a barrier between yourself and others in the online world that isn't there in real life; which forces you to approach social interactions in a more immediate environment.

Online stereotypes are even more vacuous, in the real world, you are judged differently than say on a typology forum, by different criteria. The online stereotypes are less reality based, you can judge someone in real life as quiet, shy, outgoing, aggressive, I don't know about others here but I can probably judge people's motives and character much better in a physically present format than through the medium of digital waves. You can't tell as easily when someone is feeling anger, not all anger is expressed through words but through facial expressions, body language. It is easy to see how you can build a distorted and limited caricature.

Then there is how much ego factors into someone's judgements of others. A lot of judgements are based on projections.

 

[Kn0wB34]

Pretty sure my mom is INFP, and I consider her way less socially awkward than myself. I seem to see the emo stuff being mostly attributed to ISFPs and the socially awkward stuff being mostly attributed to INTPs. For INFPs, it's mostly things like being creative or the 'starry-eyed dreamer' or something.

 

[Tony7]

We are only about 4% of the population. We are actually considered rare type. We are actually capable to contribute so much. But they just don't know where to put us in this capitalist society. Some of us hang in duties and do even a better job than they do. We just have to prove them wrong.

We can act like we are extrovert, look at Johnny Depp and his career. Many introvert people are doing so well in public.

If we can have a deeper thought why can't we serve on the surface? In the opposite, they don't have the ability to do it.

Many T types are curious about what people think and while we know how to think like them.

We can adapt to any environment. I think we are equipped with abilities. We just need self-improvement lessons and practices.

 

[Charly The Rabbit]

All those stereotypes might be true, but that doesnt mean you are fixed to those ones for all your life.

There is something called "Personal Growth", which depends entirely on ourself. If your are a sensitive person it doesnt mean you can't learn to be analitical. I have done several improvements on the classics INFP stereotypes learning my opposites(weaknesses). Give it a try, sometimes is hard but is very interesting seeing your progress on things you thought you suck.

 

[Hexcoder]

All those stereotypes might be true, but that doesnt mean you are fixed to those ones for all your life.

There is something called "Personal Growth", which depends entirely on ourself. If your are a sensitive person it doesnt mean you can't learn to be analitical. I have done several improvements on the classics INFP stereotypes learning my opposites(weaknesses). Give it a try, sometimes is hard but is very interesting seeing your progress on things you thought you suck.

100% and thank you, it's good to see someone with this mindset on the forums. I used to be pretty irrational and I've done a lot of work on myself. Se seems impossible for me, I could never use it like an Se Dom but I definitely agree with your stance on self-improvement. This was refreshing to see.

 

[mushr00m]

All those stereotypes might be true, but that doesnt mean you are fixed to those ones for all your life.

A large issue is how many online typologists may view others in a very rigid and fixed way, leaving no room for growth or space to move, it's really damaging because people are forcing themselves to fit an immature version of the type in order to be considered 'that type'. It's like the younger/coming of age demographic is far too often used as the only representation of certain types when life exists on a continuum and less acknowledged are the voices of the INFP's who have more experience of being an adult and experiencing their functions. The latter can get drowned out unfortunately alot of the time. This is more strictly related to online typing culture.

 

[Judson Joist]

The adorkability of the INFP stereotype makes my face do this.

Which I know probably irritates some of you. Maybe you can be to us INTJs what we are to ENFPs. If I'm not getting too archetypally categorical, that is.
:tongue:

 

[Blue Flower]

IRL, most of us don’t know each other’s types. And if people were asked in real life if the INFPs they know are thinkers or feelers, I think many of us would be assumed to be thinkers.

Our Fi is reserved and private unless you trod on us or something we hold dear. We don’t emote. The online stereotypes are based on I-don’t-know-what. We are perhaps inclined to be late maturers and socially awkward when young but we are smart and develop our skills as we age. Emo involves wearing your heart on your sleeve. We are not that.

We are emotional ninjas who sneak up on strong T types and turn them all fuzzy-wuzzy when they least expect it.

We see ourselves as awkward but others don’t see that. Quirky maybe. When Ne comes out to play.

 

[Judson Joist]

And if people were asked in real life if the INFPs they know are thinkers or feelers, I think many of us would be assumed to be thinkers.

My INFP BFF is an IT specialist, a profession often associated with INTPs or other T-types.

Our Fi is reserved and private

Not unlike us INTJs.

The online stereotypes are based on I-don’t-know-what.

Many notable INFP exemplars are masterful authors with a knack for conceptualizing the abstract, including but not limited to Tolkien, Orwell, and Kafka.

We are perhaps inclined to be late maturers and socially awkward when young but we are smart and develop our skills as we age.

Not unlike us INTJs.

Emo involves wearing your heart on your sleeve.

Nothing wrong with unleashing your id and being an artiste every so often. Btw, why is "emo" associated with "depressive?" Why can't there be a "manic" emo?

We are emotional ninjas who sneak up on strong T-types and turn them all fuzzy-wuzzy when they least expect it.

We totally dig it!
:crazy:
I do, anyway, and I don't care if anyone thinks it's "undignified."
:tongue:

We see ourselves as awkward but others don’t see that.

Normal is boring.

Quirky maybe. When Ne comes out to play.

"As you know, the id wasn't meant to be starved." ~Philips Exeter Blue I

 

[arwen7]

Emo.

 

[Blue Flower]

My INFP BFF is an IT specialist, a profession often associated with INTPs or other T-types.


Not unlike us INTJs.


Many notable INFP exemplars are masterful authors with a knack for conceptualizing the abstract, including but not limited to Tolkien, Orwell, and Kafka.


Not unlike us INTJs.


Nothing wrong with unleashing your id and being an artiste every so often. Btw, why is "emo" associated with "depressive?" Why can't there be a "manic" emo?


We totally dig it!
:crazy:
I do, anyway, and I don't care if anyone thinks it's "undignified."
:tongue:

Normal is boring.


"As you know, the id wasn't meant to be starved." ~Philips Exeter Blue I

I think IRL that INTJ and INFP are naturally drawn to each other. We are similar in many ways yet different enough to interest each other. INFP does not see INTJ reservedness as “cold”. INTJ is fine with INFP’s emotional roller-coasteriness. Both tend to be strong introverts who can get silly and playful with those we are comfortable with. INTJ is not surprised when we express our inner Dark Side and INFP does not force INTJ to elaborate on emotions when they are expressed. Both would probably rather text than talk at times.

Strangely on some of these forums the two seem to clash though.

Edit: don’t know how to double quote here and your comments without my original post look weird. :sad:

 

[Judson Joist]

Edit: don’t know how to double quote here

Use "QUOTE" (beginning) and "/QUOTE" (end) in brackets (these things: "[]") at the beginning and end of each line you wish to quote. Whenever I do it, it looks compartmentalized.

Here's an example:

Clown cakes with pizza toppings!

 

[Kataro214]

Hello! I'm from Norway roud:
I'm usually not socially awkward in my own view, just in others view ;3

Also, idk why we need to hate on the INFP stereotype. It's hard to be INFP and I have no difficulties imagining that many of them fall into depressive thoughts and self-doubt. INFPs have the lowest natural confidence for all types. We have to work more in order to gain this confidence, for example in contrast to an ENTJ. We also have lower job satisfaction and happiness levels than average.

The good news however: I think we are more likely to work with self-growth than other personality types.
I personally think that the stereotype INFP is usually young, but with age we can turn the whole thing upside down and have an advantage over life instead.
Actually. I have experienced both depression and anxiety at younger age, and I find it valuable for my understanding of other people and even future self-growth.

 

[catharsiis]

I think a lot of people get the stereotype from younger INFPs.

I'll admit.... I was one of those angsty INFPs a few years back haha. The other INFPs I know were like that when they were younger, too.

Most of us grow out of it as we get older, though. INFPs can be very emotionally stable & mature. It's the unhealthy ones that make us look bad.

 

[Kataro214]

Most of us grow out of it as we get older, though. INFPs can be very emotionally stable & mature. It's the unhealthy ones that make us look bad.

I don't think they make us look bad at all.. people should be more accepting to the weak side of humanity. Idk why the society supress and hide the metal illness like depression and anxiety like it's something that shouldnt be talked about. At least when I was depressed, I was not afraid to show it. And to me, that's rather a stength that other people lacks.
Actually, being emotionally mature is probably what INFPs are best at!
Real INFP men cries whenever they want, imo.

but I get your point, it looks bad from the society view. It can even make it harder to get a job and similar.

 

[Blue Flower]

Use "QUOTE" (beginning) and "/QUOTE" (end) in brackets (these things: "[]") at the beginning and end of each line you wish to quote. Whenever I do it, it looks compartmentalized.

Here's an example:

I know the tags but when I click the quote button, it only picks up the poster’s original text and not what THEY quoted. And copy and paste is tiring from a phone.

Oh INTJ, solve my problem!