My husband is.. wait for it... an INTJ. He is my absolute best friend and we really complement each other.
It's an odd thing how many INTJs there are in my life and how I find it so incredibly natural to relate to them. That might be because the first INTJ in my life was my mom. We also get along really well. Some other friends have ended up being INTJs too.
Anyways, my husband is definitely an INTJ through and through. We've both been revisiting typology over the past few days, and he says to me "You know, I really think I'm too affectionate to be an INTJ."
My response? "Nope."
To which he burst out laughing and said "Well, alright then."
Then we thought about it more, and came to the conclusion that though he is very physically affectionate (kisses, a big hug at the end of the day, holding my hand in the store, a squeeze of the bum, haha), he isn't verbally affectionate as often. I also pointed out that when he does tell me more than a simple "I love you" it's because I play the "why? why? why?" game and drag it out of him.
On the other side of the relationship, we balance each other really well. I love the decorating and cooking. He doesn't mind the budget planning. I get him to be a little more spontaneous, and he keeps my feet on the ground. We both need our time alone and we get that about each other. I remind him sometimes that other peoples' feelings are a legitimate thing to consider, and he reminds me sometimes I have to take care of myself first.
For the record, I don't feel controlled at all. The large majority of our core values are the same, so we usually end up at the same decision regardless of the paths we took to get there. He trusts my attention to detail and I trust his bigger picture. (A little stereotyping, but just to make the point that our strengths fill each others' weaknesses.)
I think any two people can work. I think there are probably a few personalities that I could never ever be in a relationship with (some particular E personalities come in mind), but it really depends on the two people in the relationship. You can never know what two people have and why they do (or don't) work together.