This is definitely true. I was getting depressed because of my loneliness and my friend (he was more a stranger than a friend at first) help me and now I feel that I need to help him in every situation. I had several dreams where I save him and that kind of stuff. But for me is also true that it is for empathy.It's only planted within us if someone else saves us first. Their act wakes up to the reality of our worth.
I just can't see anyone sad, somehow I feel their pain like it was mine, and I feel a urge to hug them and make them happy. When I see the others happy, even if I am at the bottom of the pit, I become happy too.Our hearts react to the world. And we feel our pain, and we understand others feel it too.
Most of the time that's true - but other times life kicks you in the nuts so many times you decide you deserve better and act on it. Then before you know it you're just trying to make everyone else happy too. :happy:It's only planted within us if someone else saves us first. Their act wakes up to the reality of our worth.
Here is the same. I usually hear things like "I only help others because some day they will help me" I even had a teacher that said this! And when I said that I never expect nothing from others except their happiness she made that face like "you are missing the point!"Here we I live everyone says "It's too late to save the world", people became selfish. "If we help we will be screw too"
I don't think you're being selfish.I feel the want to help people from inside, I don't do it because society is pressuring me. I actually get pleasure and enjoyment out of helping others, it's a warm fuzzy feeling not far off from feeling loved. It gives me peace of mind to help others and the knowledge that I've left a postitive mark on the world fills me with purpose. This is probably why I don't like charity since it's really just a bandaid for a problem, I want to see change and action from what I do. I want to help build up something that will stand the test of time or spark a change that transforms something bad into something good.
Do you guys think am I being selfish?