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Hello! I've been sort of a stalker on these forums for a while, but now that I have somewhat of a situation I'm needing advice about I've finally decided to make my own profile!
There is a guy I just started dating (ENFJ) He is a really sweet dude. But the way our relationship has been developing, and how I feel about him is just a little off...
I liked him as soon as I met him, and I'm pretty sure he felt the same way. We starting going out soon after...things went pretty fast. Which I know is kinda of against the way I'd ideally like to happen, but you know we both knew we liked each other right away, we just kind of cut to the chase =/ So I started seeing him almost every day for couple weeks, but it just felt that something was amiss...maybe because it all happened to fast (this is both of our first relationship). It felt like we were trying to hard to hard to fit that cookie cutter image of a couple, like we were forcing ourselves to be something we are not, to the point were I didn't really know how I was supposed to feel about him. So I talked to him about it one day at the beach, and I think I freaked him out because he broke up with me that night...
For a week we didn't see each other, and then on facebook we starting chatting and we both found out we missed each other waaay more than we thought we would (I really did miss him). So we decided to give it another go.
Our first date since then was yesterday.....
My big question is....how am I supposed to feel? I miss him a lot when he isn't here...but when we are together I feel kind of uneasy, and the conversation doesn't flow as well as I would like it to...He ends up talking A LOT about his family, friends, and events that happened to him. I like to listen, I do...but I wish we could talk about things more important to me...I get so nervous about what to do and say around him...I want to let these walls come down, and talk about more vulnerable things, but I get the feeling he wouldn't be into that, but as an infp, i think I really need those conversations, and deep connection.
I guess I'm expecting it to feel absolutely right, but it doesn't completely.
There is a guy I just started dating (ENFJ) He is a really sweet dude. But the way our relationship has been developing, and how I feel about him is just a little off...
I liked him as soon as I met him, and I'm pretty sure he felt the same way. We starting going out soon after...things went pretty fast. Which I know is kinda of against the way I'd ideally like to happen, but you know we both knew we liked each other right away, we just kind of cut to the chase =/ So I started seeing him almost every day for couple weeks, but it just felt that something was amiss...maybe because it all happened to fast (this is both of our first relationship). It felt like we were trying to hard to hard to fit that cookie cutter image of a couple, like we were forcing ourselves to be something we are not, to the point were I didn't really know how I was supposed to feel about him. So I talked to him about it one day at the beach, and I think I freaked him out because he broke up with me that night...
For a week we didn't see each other, and then on facebook we starting chatting and we both found out we missed each other waaay more than we thought we would (I really did miss him). So we decided to give it another go.
Our first date since then was yesterday.....
My big question is....how am I supposed to feel? I miss him a lot when he isn't here...but when we are together I feel kind of uneasy, and the conversation doesn't flow as well as I would like it to...He ends up talking A LOT about his family, friends, and events that happened to him. I like to listen, I do...but I wish we could talk about things more important to me...I get so nervous about what to do and say around him...I want to let these walls come down, and talk about more vulnerable things, but I get the feeling he wouldn't be into that, but as an infp, i think I really need those conversations, and deep connection.
I guess I'm expecting it to feel absolutely right, but it doesn't completely.