Yeah, masculine and feminine now mean different things depending on the culture that you are from. I think it is better for us to have the freedom to define what it means to be a man and what it means to be a woman, now that times have changed from when people were cavemen and weren't as advanced. It is probably a better idea, like @Drecon said, to think of masculinity and femininity is a spectrum, possibly of many different traits that each have a scale.Thank you for this interesting topic and replies.
As some of you said, I find the whole binary opposition between feminine and masculine traits very reductive and outdated. The concern about "being virile" for men is just bullsh*it to me. I'm a heterosexual man, but I've never recognised in traits culturally viewed as masculine. I'm gentle, helpful, I hate conflicts... I've always been more of an intellectual and arty type, and I've always hated sports and competitiveness. I've been made fun of during my teenage years for my so-called feminine traits. I've been called "gay" many times, as if exhibiting feminine traits equaled being gay, and as if being gay was the supreme disgrace for men. People should be free to behave as they please and shouldn't have to conform to some backward cultural norm.
I'm also not a fan the emphasis on virility in men. I agree that people should be allowed to behave however they want, and shouldn't have to conform to gender stereotypes, as long as they are trying to be moral people.
It's really ridiculous that traits like being gentle, helpful, and disliking conflict are made fun of. All of those traits are like what makes a nice person. It's like guys are not supposed to be nice, even though being nice is a moral thing. And being too nice gets you labeled as feminine and gay.
Also, disliking competition is good thing because cooperation is better than competition. Competition is trying to get ahead of someone else and beat them, which imo is bad and can bring out the worst in people. Competition is something that is valued in individualistic cultures that value separating your self from others and getting ahead; I believe these ideas are bad and promote people to be to desiring of things. I follow the idea of Buddhism which states not be to desiring and not to get attached to things, so cultures with a competitive spirit go against this.