This is very interesting, because I think that due to the constructs of society, there are usually common differences between the genders of all 16 types. I don't know much about the details of the other types, but I really think there is a difference between male and female ISFJ's in general...at least in how they are perceived, if nothing else.
Well, people generally see you one of two ways: Diligent and Trustworthy or Awkward and Weird, and sometimes both. It really depends on your settings and what not.
Statistically, Females are the majority of ISFJ's, and ISFJ's mentality can be seen by some as stereotypical feminine behavior. There are other types out there with similar problems, such as INFPs.
Society generally sees us as needing to be more out going, and more willing to think about ourselves mostly.
Yet again, Trigun hits the nail on the head. You have a knack for doing that with ISFJ related stuff! You know our type really well, I think.
I'm definitely in the "both" category. Most people usually find me awkward at first, but once they get to know me they view me as diligent and trustworthy, and my employers almost always think that. Of course, when people get to know me really well, they start seeing how truly weird I am.
And definitely, ISFJ traits are traditionally/stereotypically feminine. Being quiet, not causing commotion, putting others before yourself...we're almost like early 20th century house-wives.
This does present some awkwardness and difficulty for a male ISFJ. I know that I don't expose my full self to people until I really trust them. It's funny, because think ISFJ females are like that too, but I don't think they have to compensate for it as much. For me, I find myself kind of putting on an act more...especially in the E and T categories. A few people have told me they would have thought I'd be a thinker (even my own mom thought that, though she's an ISTJ), even though I view myself as a strong feeler (though I have good logical ability, I think).
It's funny, too...I don't mean to stereotype or bash, but it seems like almost always when another type on PerC complains about an ISFJ, they're usually talking about a female. I think there are some logical reasons for this: (a) there are more female ISFJ's, so they're more likely to encounter them. (b) People may mis-type ISFJ males as being ISTJ's, due to both their perception and due to an ISFJ male hiding his feeling side more. (c) A female ISFJ may feel more comfortable with her traits, so she may not keep them in control or in check as much as an ISFJ male would.
But I just seem to read more problems people have on PerC about ISFJ mothers, girlfriends, and female friends. Of course ISFJ males have most of the same issues, and like I said, the three reasons I listed above point to why you don't hear about issues with ISFJ's males as much. But I find it interesting that I end up giving advice to people about how to deal with an ISFJ female when it's possible that the girl is different than I am in ways I can't even imagine. Of course, when I start reading, I see so much of myself in the person who's being described, so I can't help myself to jump in. Besides, as an ISFJ, I love helping people!
I mostly grew up with very few close friends. I was friends with almost everybody, had friends from all the different clicks in school, and everybody knew who I was, but I was not popular. I was simply me, Dependable, Trustworthy, Smart, and Nice. Currently, I am seen as Foolish, Repetitive, Slow, and Distant. Its all about perspective and what environment you are in. First impressions, much to my dismay, are also very important, especially to ISFJ's. Since we generally lack the force of personality to change peoples opinion about us, the way people think we are can become very deep rooted.
All in all though, I like being and ISFJ. The Lord made me as He did for a reason. ^_^
Yeah, that sounds like me growing up, though I think the first set of descriptions currently fits me much more than the second set. I think the key thing is getting past that first impression. I've also done my best to just try and relax when meeting new people, it's helped a lot. As hard as it is, I try not to care about coming across as goofy or stupid, because I've had tons and tons of people tell me that they viewed me as much more awkward before they got to know me because I never talked. I think when I just let me be my goofy, weird self, people like it a lot more. I just get scared to show that at first because I think people will find me stupid.
But people just view me as a nice guy, even if I'm somewhat quiet and reserved. I get along really easily with most girls, though I usually fall into the friend zone all of the time. I'm cool with that, though...I don't need a relationship right now. But I usually feel like I'm in the little brother role to most of them.
It's tougher for me around guys, since I usually have to hide my feeling side more. Of course, if I'm around more feeling type males, it's easier. But around thinking males I usually hide my sensitivity and stick to subjects that are "tougher", like work, sports, or intellectual subjects. Once I get to know a guy a lot more and get to talk individually, I open up about more sensitive type things, and it usually goes pretty well.
So like Trigun said, it can be tough being an ISFJ male, but it's cool...I like being a nice guy, and sometimes you do feel a little more unique. I also like feeling "soft and cuddly" sometimes, though it's much easier on PerC, where I can avoid the consequences of RL. I think being an ISFJ male gives me a decent balance of soft sentimentality and cool logic and defined structure.