Regardless of your physical age, if you are currently wallowing in self-pity because nobody understands you, you are still a kid. If you are in the “I’m unique” phase- which I skipped- you are still a kid. All the praise that you read about INFJs getting from the MBTI does not apply to the INFJ kids. An INFJ pretty much has to be an adult and self-actualized in order to be worth anything, but once they reach this point, they can accomplish wonderful things.
Ok, let me talk about how my life has been going recently. To the layperson, it would appear that I have converted from introvert to extrovert, but I have not. I am the same temperament. I just understand it better, and I am confident. If anything, I feel more like an ambivert. I can communicate with the average joe just as easily as I can communicate with you “deep” people.
I can communicate with ANYBODY very easily. I can practically read everyone’s mind. So I use this to my advantage to use the thoughts in my head to try to resolve conflicts peacefully. This is exactly what I am trying to do on this forum. I am a harmony-seeking idealist. I am a humanitarian. I have read some posts that some of you have written saying that I can’t fix all of you. You’re right. It’s all up to you. But I wish you would heed my words, because I really think you would be a happier and more rounded MAN OR WOMAN if you did.
It energizes me to make people happy. When there is no conflict going on, I will often turn into sort of an offbeat and quirky comedian. You might see some traces of that in some of my posts. If you read something I write and go “WTF”- that was meant to be humorous. It makes me laugh just to know that I will get that response.
No doubt some of you THINK that you are not a humanitarian. You are. You’re just unbalanced and immature. Many of you enjoy writing. I would ask you to think about the stuff that you write. Is there a “message” for people to think over? When you go off into your own world, are you thinking about how other people have or will react to your thoughts? If so, you are an INFJ. You need to find a way to make your goals a REALITY. This means you must find a realistic outlet to ACT. Too many of you are being a slave to Ni. By not grounding yourself in reality, you are floating away in the clouds. And you are making yourself miserable, because you are neglecting your Fe. You will continue to be a miserable and ultimately worthless person until you do something with your life. Your life MUST have a REALISTIC humanitarian purpose. I have read something on the internet that suggests that INFJs find a JOB in which they can use their insight. This is what I am going to do. I am going to go back to school to become a psychologist.
This may sound weird to some people, but I think that “maturity” for an INFJ is to learn to be LESS reserved. I know that many reserved people believe that they are more mature than free-spirited people, but they are not. Like I said in an earlier post, you are not “internally reserved” or “internally shy”, so even if you are mistaken for an extrovert for being free-spirited, you would still be an INFJ. Your “shell” exists because you are SHY- not because you are an introvert. Admit it to yourself.
Ok, one last point I want to cover…
You don’t need to try to be a T. They are not superior to you. I am confident enough now to believe that I can WIN an argument with a T. They don’t think this is possible. They don’t think I CAN think as objectively as they can, but I can. All I would have to do is tap into their mindset and reason in their language, but honestly, I have more important things to do.
When people are sad or in pain or suffering, the INFJ is MUCH better equipped to handle the situation than an INTJ. You are NOT inferior to ANYONE! You are a valuable asset to the world. But you need to grow up. You need to be honest and open with your feelings. You need to give Ni a rest once and a while and just have fun. You need to love and care for other people.
Be nice intellectuals. Everything will be ok. I promise. Until next time… :happy:
Ok, let me talk about how my life has been going recently. To the layperson, it would appear that I have converted from introvert to extrovert, but I have not. I am the same temperament. I just understand it better, and I am confident. If anything, I feel more like an ambivert. I can communicate with the average joe just as easily as I can communicate with you “deep” people.
I can communicate with ANYBODY very easily. I can practically read everyone’s mind. So I use this to my advantage to use the thoughts in my head to try to resolve conflicts peacefully. This is exactly what I am trying to do on this forum. I am a harmony-seeking idealist. I am a humanitarian. I have read some posts that some of you have written saying that I can’t fix all of you. You’re right. It’s all up to you. But I wish you would heed my words, because I really think you would be a happier and more rounded MAN OR WOMAN if you did.
It energizes me to make people happy. When there is no conflict going on, I will often turn into sort of an offbeat and quirky comedian. You might see some traces of that in some of my posts. If you read something I write and go “WTF”- that was meant to be humorous. It makes me laugh just to know that I will get that response.
No doubt some of you THINK that you are not a humanitarian. You are. You’re just unbalanced and immature. Many of you enjoy writing. I would ask you to think about the stuff that you write. Is there a “message” for people to think over? When you go off into your own world, are you thinking about how other people have or will react to your thoughts? If so, you are an INFJ. You need to find a way to make your goals a REALITY. This means you must find a realistic outlet to ACT. Too many of you are being a slave to Ni. By not grounding yourself in reality, you are floating away in the clouds. And you are making yourself miserable, because you are neglecting your Fe. You will continue to be a miserable and ultimately worthless person until you do something with your life. Your life MUST have a REALISTIC humanitarian purpose. I have read something on the internet that suggests that INFJs find a JOB in which they can use their insight. This is what I am going to do. I am going to go back to school to become a psychologist.
This may sound weird to some people, but I think that “maturity” for an INFJ is to learn to be LESS reserved. I know that many reserved people believe that they are more mature than free-spirited people, but they are not. Like I said in an earlier post, you are not “internally reserved” or “internally shy”, so even if you are mistaken for an extrovert for being free-spirited, you would still be an INFJ. Your “shell” exists because you are SHY- not because you are an introvert. Admit it to yourself.
Ok, one last point I want to cover…
You don’t need to try to be a T. They are not superior to you. I am confident enough now to believe that I can WIN an argument with a T. They don’t think this is possible. They don’t think I CAN think as objectively as they can, but I can. All I would have to do is tap into their mindset and reason in their language, but honestly, I have more important things to do.
When people are sad or in pain or suffering, the INFJ is MUCH better equipped to handle the situation than an INTJ. You are NOT inferior to ANYONE! You are a valuable asset to the world. But you need to grow up. You need to be honest and open with your feelings. You need to give Ni a rest once and a while and just have fun. You need to love and care for other people.
Be nice intellectuals. Everything will be ok. I promise. Until next time… :happy: