[Tridentus]

is it just me or are ENFPs unusually drawn to introverts? this is feels like a reoccurring choice i've had throughout my life. introverts tend to look for a different kind of connection to extroverts, and i prefer it, it feels more meaningful somehow- introverts care. but the reoccurring choice has been between a group of quiet nice ppl and a group of extroverted adventurous types. it's kinda like a choice between fun and energy and the soulful connection which i value highly. i usually end up choosing fun, just because it's the easier option, but deep down i think i prefer introverts. if the rest of the world had to be just introverts or just extroverts i'd choose introverts (hard choice though..)

why is it? whilst most of my best friends have been extroverts, the ppl i've clicked with most have often been introverts. i feel like i get this message from the rest of this forum, am i right? and why?:mellow:

 

[lucky]

With other introverts, it's like the connection automatically exists, we understand each other's nature. But neither of us pushes the connection, so the deepness happens over a long period of time. Or it may never happen. I've had an ISTP friend since middle school. We know very little about each other, but there's always been a mutual understanding. Nevertheless, I still feel close to them and comfortable, but not close in the way I really desire, like I-could-tell-you-everything close.

I'm able to establish a deep connection with some extroverts very quickly. Sometimes it's frightening. They push for a connection to get inside of you. I either have to open up and let them in, or resist to prevent being consumed.

It mostly boils down to trust for me. I have no reason to trust most people.

With most extroverts I've observed, they seem to connect very easily since it's their nature. Two outward energies meeting in the middle. But it appears to be only on the surface. Neither is truly penetrating the other. Just like with my introvert-introvert experiences.

 

[Rube]

is it just me or are ENFPs unusually drawn to introverts? this is feels like a reoccurring choice i've had throughout my life. introverts tend to look for a different kind of connection to extroverts, and i prefer it, it feels more meaningful somehow- introverts care. but the reoccurring choice has been between a group of quiet nice ppl and a group of extroverted adventurous types. it's kinda like a choice between fun and energy and the soulful connection which i value highly. i usually end up choosing fun, just because it's the easier option, but deep down i think i prefer introverts. if the rest of the world had to be just introverts or just extroverts i'd choose introverts (hard choice though..)

why is it? whilst most of my best friends have been extroverts, the ppl i've clicked with most have often been introverts. i feel like i get this message from the rest of this forum, am i right? and why?:mellow:

I also feel very drawn to introverts. I don't know why, nor do I really care what the reason is. They just seem so...attractive to me. But I don't know about that "introverts care" part. None of the introverts I've gone for have cared a damn about me. My guess is that there's no real difference in caring between introverts and extroverts, but with extroverts it's easier to tell whether or not they care about you.

 

[waterviolet]

Maybe you are drawn to something that you can't completely know and understand? You gain your energy and satisfaction from outside yourself, the people that surround you...that is where you get that magical "zing" and zest for life. I on the other hand am the introvert that draws her energy from within and thru close personal relationships with a chosen few. An introvert will focus on who you are at the core, your extrovert friends may only know the person that you portray on the outside. If it makes you feel better, i'm even drawn to extroverts because they are so unlike me and not in a million years would I ever be comfortable doing what they so easily do. That - and the fact that an extrovert will help me push my boundries a bit - even an introvert likes excitement!

 

[lucky]

Maybe you are drawn to something that you can't completely know and understand? You gain your energy and satisfaction from outside yourself, the people that surround you...that is where you get that magical "zing" and zest for life. I on the other hand am the introvert that draws her energy from within and thru close personal relationships with a chosen few. An introvert will focus on who you are at the core, your extrovert friends may only know the person that you portray on the outside. If it makes you feel better, i'm even drawn to extroverts because they are so unlike me and not in a million years would I ever be comfortable doing what they so easily do. That - and the fact that an extrovert will help me push my boundries a bit - even an introvert likes excitement!

This is good, but I like that part. Was what I was trying to get out, but you said it better.

 

[Rube]

This is good, but I like that part. Was what I was trying to get out, but you said it better.

Well, INFJs do have a knack for being pretty much amazing.

 

[Moby]

Absolutely I find introverts very attractive. IxFx females especially, and most introverted males make good friends except for the one ISTP I ever knew. He was really violent and creepy, he did take the MBTI test with me in high school and apparently it was part of his nature if he fell to the darkside which he definitely did, a very tortured soul.

But I digress. Introverts rock, especially if they have good social skills so we can relate a bit better.

 

[Tridentus]

truth is, im kind of in awe of confident introverts..
it's like, no matter what mood or whatever im in, im so dependent on external things, wheras a confident introvert doesn't need that. it's like im a speaker that needs to be plugged into the wall, wheras they're portable speakers which run on their own energy.

 

[truevitality]

For best friendship, I've found that many of my friends are the very eclectic and eccentric introverts. Often times my friends are so differnt that I can't even mix them! Introverts often have the tendency to be more independent as well. When I bond with E's sometimes I think they want to be around me too much and I'm a really really weak E so I want my space every now and then. I've been in a one week "isolation"/ hibernation/ introspection period right now and I'm quite happy with that!

Oh yeah, I've found that with my Introvert friends, though they're I's they're very fun and adventurous they just don't like to be with people all the time! Many of them have been SP types and well, they're certainly doers! I had one INFP friend and she was awesome too! We had the most creative chats the world has ever seen. lol No one could understand us but us. And that was just fine.

 

[Indigo Aria]

Absolutely I find introverts very attractive. IxFx females especially, and most introverted males make good friends except for the one ISTP I ever knew. He was really violent and creepy, he did take the MBTI test with me in high school and apparently it was part of his nature if he fell to the darkside which he definitely did, a very tortured soul.

But I digress. Introverts rock, especially if they have good social skills so we can relate a bit better.

Are you sure he wasn't a very troubled ENFJ relying on his shadow functions? tortured soul and ISTP just don't seem to go together, but who am i kidding I never knew him...

 

[Halcy0n]

Intorverts are sexy. Plain and simple. :tongue:

 

[Deja Vu]

Yes. Why?

Because they are soft on the outside, tast on he inside.

 

[energeticelephant]

With most extroverts I've observed, they seem to connect very easily since it's their nature. Two outward energies meeting in the middle. But it appears to be only on the surface. Neither is truly penetrating the other. Just like with my introvert-introvert experiences.

I think you put it really nicely. With other extroverts there's a connection that's usually instantaneous and fun and exhilarating, but I've noticed this with all my good extrovert relationships: when it comes down to whether I feel like I can turn to them when in trouble or whether I feel like revealing my most dark, personal secrets, I don't. It's not like I don't trust them and it's not like I don't feel close to them, but I don't feel close to them in THAT way.

A good ENFP girl friend and I are close in the sense that we feel comfortable being physically close and we have a lot of fun getting into trouble together (and bond through such shenanigans), but when it comes down to revealing to her when I'm sad or telling her what's troubling me, I hesitate. I know she'll accept me no matter what, but I just feel like those are things I'd rather share with my INTJ friend. Then it feels balanced and right.

I dunno, I think I need introverts to ground me. They complete me. Haha :crazy:

 

[Mutatio NOmenis]

So you all admit it? INTP's are awesome?

 

[Tridentus]

lol.. you now have it in writing mutatio..

 

[pinkrasputin]

Oh yummy yummy introverts. Sigh...

 

[lucky]

truth is, im kind of in awe of confident introverts..
it's like, no matter what mood or whatever im in, im so dependent on external things, wheras a confident introvert doesn't need that. it's like im a speaker that needs to be plugged into the wall, wheras they're portable speakers which run on their own energy.

I've noticed this in my E friend. He gets his energy from the external world. The more he's in contact with his close friends, the more consistently high his energy. Sometimes I feel like he needs more than I can give. I think he needs to find a woman.

I'm the opposite in a way. Most of my energy is generated internally. But it's not like I can do without outside contact, although I have tried and told myself I didn't need anyone but me. How selfish. I get my external energy in the form of connection in close personal relationships. I only need a few though, as it seems to amplify inside.

 

[Indigo Aria]

So you all admit it? INTP's are awesome?

Not as awesome as ISTP's

 

[SeekJess]

Hmm what about ISTJ's? Aren't we awesome? Even though we are the polar opposite of you guys.

 

[Indigo Aria]

Most of my energy is generated internally. But it's not like I can do without outside contact, although I have tried and told myself I didn't need anyone but me. How selfish. I get my external energy in the form of connection in close personal relationships. I only need a few though, as it seems to amplify inside.

Thats something I've been thinking about a lot lately. I try to do without people way too much, and lately its been hitting me that I really do need a few people.

I need to find an ENFP girl.