Success, stability, and follow through are just the bread and butter. Empathy, compassion, understanding, and love is really what makes a woman swoon. As long as you can be somewhat stable and frugal, I'd say most INFP males are very appealing. I have been in the "bread and butter" relationship. With a person with a working foresight towards money. It is nice but it just is kind of empty. A woman really wants to just be seen and heard. Many men fail miserably at this, which would explain all the lonely, undelighted women out there. To not be noticed and heard is a pitiful existence.
I have noticed INFP men might get a slow start in relationships. Might be overlooked and stomped apon a bit. But women will notice your worth, theyll come around, besides your just looking for one woman anyways, right?
Just be confident in what you are. Resign in knowing your not going to be Mr. Rich guy, and just concentrate on your skill set to an extent, and be frugal in what you do earn.
Chin up! My favorite people in the whole world are INFP guys! So, keep being you! Everyone in the world has need of improving. And it takes a while to get it right, and to get in the daily life routine, but youll get the hang of it.
I'm an older INFP and I have found, over the years, the above post to be
right on as to what women look for in a man. Notice how she focuses on empathy, compassion, and understanding. Aren't INFPs described as having those qualities? So you are there already, aren't you?
A lot of what society demands, or expects, from a man could be said to fall into the Te cognitive function. If it really bothers you that much (I'm addressing this to the poster who started the thread) that you lack in the qualities that seem to go along with the Te function, you can develop that function. What might help you is the book
8 Keys To Self-Leadership by
Dario Nardi . Each chapter is devoted to very detailed descriptions of the 8 cognitive functions, and, shows how one could develop that particular function, if they so desire. For example, in the chapter devoted to Te (extraverted thinking) there is a detailed description of Te, followed by two case studies which illustrate Te in action, followed by exercises for developing Te, if one is interested. It is divided into 3 exercises: the introductory, basic, and advanced exercises. Now, this is not saying that you should do this. It is just a suggestion. The author is not saying that you will become an STJ by developing Te. You will still be an INFP, but, an INFP who will be able to use Te, when needed. For example, in the corporate world. Dario Nardi's point is that all of the types have access to all of the cognitive functions. Each type can develop a function for use, when needed, without changing their type.
I, personally, have
not found that being an INFP has held me back socially or professionally. I have always had things to work on. But, then so does everyone else...........
no matter what type they are. Every type has their strong points
and their shortcomings. If you were to change your type for the purpose of getting rid of your shortcomings, due to what you percieve as being the fault of your type, then all you accomplish is to exchange one set of weaknesses for another set. And, on top of that, you won't even be happy because you are not being yourself.
I have found the following to be an
excellent description of the strong points, and shortcomings, of an INFP. You might want to read it -->
http://personalitycafe.com/infp-articles/21683-infp-you-introverted-feeling-type.html
Hope this helps.