I wanted to check out what the dating side of life is like. So I signed up for two, and while I have long conversations going back and fourth with others around my age, it doesn't really go anywhere much, I also feel the need to put myself out there, like ask me questions (I like being asked questions), otherwise the chats tend to die as I ask things and sometimes I get replies back other times not so much. I seen a bunch of accounts become deleted, is that a big thing nowadays? I do want to meet them in person at least a date somewhere to see how it goes but I never get anyone interested in this so I don't bother need to change it up and learn the secret.
I think I know where you're coming from. You have to understand a few things about modern dating first. Today's dating has been ruined by shitty apps like Tinder and the like. Millennials are especially notorious for not having patience and wanting immediate gratification. So, you trying to discover someone, might be boring for such an individual. Not all, but it's a lot of them.
I have no idea what dating apps are available in the US. We have plenty of dating apps with specific interests here where I live. Serious dating, casual dating, sex and so on.
I see you're into serious dating. That's good. My advice is then to describe yourself in an interesting way without telling too much.
How your online profile should look like.
Go from outside in. Short but concise. Make it interesting. Keep it a lightweight mystery. Just enough to provide clues about yourself and your personality. Women like mystery. Don't make it Sherlock difficult so that she can't read you. Be like the tutorial of Sherlock. Tell her some clues but let her discover them herself.
Don't say things in negative tones. Say it in positive tones. Here is an example:
Instead of "I don't like fat girls" say "I prefer athletic girls". Means the same thing. It's not a lie, it is the truth, it is delivered in a diplomatic way. Women tend to not take bluntness well. Men tent to be more blunt.
Have one picture of your face. Another picture of a you doing a hobby that you have so that it is clearly visible that you are into something (on a bike, guitar, skating or whatever you like). One last photo in a setting that you like the most (if you like the mountains, take a picture there, if you like a garden, do that, if you're the crowd type, a photo of you at a concert). It says so much about you and saves you a lot of text.
Describe yourself perfectly if the site has preset fields (height, eye color, sign etc). Fill those accurately. It saves you the trouble. Especially if you find some crazy chick that hates your sign. To avoid such scenarios be honest about it.
Then write your story. Make is simple phrases. Single sentences are preferred to long phrases that never end. About 500 characters should be enough to say what you need. If the service has a premium tax, you might as well get it to be able to send messages and be more visible. It sucks, but if you want to meet someone, you gotta put in the effort.
You will have to search through a lot of garbage before you get a diamond. Only meet with people that show interest in talking to you. Don't be afraid to say you're not interested. Keep a list of people you don't like in order to keep track.
If you have difficulties coming up with conversation topics make a list of questions and topics. It's geeky, but it's not something to be ashamed off. Think what you want to know and why. Don't ask too many useless questions. Pace your questions correctly. Don't ask her weird questions or very private ones. Don't talk about exes. Talk about positive things more than any kind of failures. Don't make it an interview. Make it a conversation. Allow her to ask you as well. Only go to your list of questions if the conversation slows down. Women love to talk about themselves. So let her some space to do that. You mostly have to listen when she starts talking. Make notes about the things she likes. At some point you might go on a date and it would help if you know what kind flowers she likes and you turn up with those flowers. Or she likes some kind of food and you take her to someplace where they serve that stuff. Or if she's the park going type, find a nice park somewhere with good reviews. You know what I mean.
Some tips when you go on actual dates.
Also, DO NOT SIMP, do not buy expensive gifts, do not go to expensive places, do not order expensive foods. Dating isn't about money. It's about you and her.
Look interested in her, be interested, but also remember to focus on yourself. Talk about what you're like. Focus on your hobbies also. Show that you are a person that exists. Put your phone away. Only answer calls. Don't text or facebook. Don't reduce everything to making her happy. Be interested, but don't be a boot licker, go about 75% of the way, make her know that you're interested, but let her work for the rest of 25%. She needs to put in the work as well.
Good luck. You're gonna need it. If you have more questions feel free to send me some PMs. We cool. As guys we do whatever we can to keep up the supremacy of patriarchy.
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